This guy is good person, gets pay 25 dollars an hour but I think that he does not want commitment. He is 38 years old and I am 34. We have been together for 10 months. I have talked to him about him moving with me but he saids that his things won't fit in my apartment. Then he saids that I put pressure on him. Then he saids he loves me and he has not found anybody like me. And he asked, why I am not satisfy with him coming just over to sleep 3 times a week.
OH, I for got to say that he still lives with his mother and he is 38 years old. Please help me figure out this puzzle!
2007-02-27 14:43:54 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am in college and work ans an administrator. I love him alot but i want commitment.
2007-02-27 14:51:53 · update #1
I have my own place.
2007-02-27 14:53:14 · update #2
He may be working and in his 30s, but he's scared to leave Momma's breast.
Hon, look somewhere else. This guy's talk about "being pressured" to move and "why can't you just sleep over" tells me he isn't going anywhere.
Do you really want to date someone who still lives at home at that age? Unless his mother is very ill, I'm not buying it.
2007-02-27 14:49:02 · answer #1 · answered by Aimee L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably just feels like he needs personal space. If he's single and 38 he'll be used to being alone. Living with a mother is not the same as living with a girlfriend because him and his mother probably ignore eachother most of the time and he probably has alot of privacy. If he isn't comfortable with the idea of entwining his life completely with yours there's nothing you can do to make that change at the moment, even if he did move in with you his doubts would ruin things. Ten months isn't a long time, if anything you should give him more time to feel comfortable with the idea of entwining his live with someone else's. If you really want to be closer sooner you can try to make a compromise. Suggest he move out of his mom's into the same building as you for example, or somewhere close to where you live.
2007-02-27 22:57:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would stop asking him or what he calls "pressuring him" about the future or moving in or anything that has to do with commitment. Even though you want to move things along, it is best to let time tell. I know you do not want to waste your time in a relationship that may not go somewhere but I think that if your man wants a commitment he will not just "tell" you but show you he is going that way. Set your own time limits and leave when you feel it is right for you. Do not give ultimatims or pressure him anymore. Go with your gut on things too! Only you know the complete situation.
2007-02-27 22:54:56 · answer #3 · answered by Cutie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want different things. Move on and find a man who also wants commitment and would jump at the chance to live with you and share your life -as in a grown up life away from mommy.
There are surely reasons that he hasn't gained independence at 38. Find someone on your level!
Good luck!
2007-02-27 22:57:50 · answer #4 · answered by storm_in_teacup 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
never live w/a man that u r not married 2. u r already giving up the goods. premartial sex is something that should b discussed. y would u want 2 put all yr cards on the table so that he has nothing 2 look forward 2. cooking, cleaning, washing his clothes & taking care of all his needs. his mom is already doing what u want 2 do 4 him so y would u want 2 take on the load w/o taking on his last name. slow yr roll & enjoy yr space. it's obvious he's not where u r n the relationship so leave well enough alone & LIVE!!!
2007-02-27 22:51:59 · answer #5 · answered by Ms. San 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should consider moving on. He obviously thinks that his mother is the ideal woman, wife, and mother and he is looking for someone just like her.
You don't fit that bill, thus no commitment.
2007-02-27 22:50:55 · answer #6 · answered by fenway2k 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mama's Boy! That is one of the biggest turn offs for me.
2007-02-27 23:07:27 · answer #7 · answered by baby doll 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
CUT OFF the sex and watch him leave you. THAT mother thing gave him a way.
2007-02-27 22:48:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mama's boy! You'll have problems later, but if you can deal with it, go ahead.
2007-02-27 22:52:50 · answer #9 · answered by lady in pink 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a gold digger.
2007-02-27 22:49:07 · answer #10 · answered by cloudofeiderdown 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋