okay, i love my boyfriend and everything but should i be worried about a chick he's been talking to? i mean he's texted her things like "could you see yourself with me?" he says that they are just friends and me and him have been together for 8 months. i love him so much but why does he have to lie about things i already know? does he think i'll be mad or break up with him? all i want is honesty. is that too much to ask. i am very mild tempered considering i am cajun and people in my family have been know for their tempers. what do i do. Please help me. he would nver cheat on my but why can't i seem to trust him? i want to trust him so bad but i been hurt so many times it's hard to trust anyone anymore. please help me, i'm going crazy!!!!!!
2007-02-27 14:29:17 · 30 answers · asked by demonswt88 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well you all make excellent points but (and i know this may sound weird) i get these uneasy feelings when something bad is about to happen (it might be ESP or just female intution) and i have had them since he called me at 6 pm to tell me he was getting his hair cut. i found out a few minutes ago that he shaved his hair off. i loved his long hair and he shaved it off. i am so scared to see it now. i think he knew i didn't want him to shave off his beautiful hair but he did it anyway. i am so confused. i don't know what to think anymore. i will not break up with him but i do wish he would tell he's going to do something like that. UGH!!!!!!!! >:(
2007-02-27 14:42:07 · update #1
the harsh truth is that you are only a part of his life till that other girl agrees to start dating him ! the message stated it all. now you gotta take a stand and break off with this guy FIRST. be a strong confident girl. you deserve far better than to be a stand by chick who the guy is just dating for convenience! and no one should have to live and suffer in suspicion like this. just let him 'go'. a girl has very strong instincts ~ and yours are probably right. so no need to be a drama queen and enough of this confronting...just go up to him and tell him ''i think we need a breather'' he mite even act and tell you he doesn't want it and he ;loves you, but just give it all a deaf ear and break it off. in no time you will define your worth.which is at this point a thing you must do coz you've been taken for a ride even in the past. its time you have to make choices that shape your personality.guys will always come and go..its important that you keep your self-respect and pride intact. ''just do it !''
2007-02-27 14:50:38 · answer #1 · answered by spin spin sunshine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok well first off he should not being asking another girl "could you see your self with me" when he has a girlfriend, so you are right for being mad about that. Also you might feel like your going crazy because of your past exsperiences, you just don't want to get hurt again. My advice is just to tell him how you feel and let him know that your worried about him doing something that some one in your past did. Ask him to help you to focus on the here and now not the past. If you let him know I'm sure he will understand and be happy that you told him.
2007-02-27 22:37:23 · answer #2 · answered by fdffhhjyuj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that there are enough signs for you to lose your temper. He's been with you for eight months. As far as I'm concerned, he shouldn't be asking any chick if they "could see them self with him". Honestly, you need to have a long chat with him. Is there something he's looking for? Why is he talking to other girls about things of that nature when he's already in a relationship with you? Why does he lie to you?
Don't stress yourself over this when you didn't do anything wrong. And, if he isn't cheating already, please don't give him the opportunity by knowing that he's chatting with other girls on that level, and lying to you, and you do nothing. I'm pretty sure he's aware of your awareness of what he's doing, and if he still doesn't care, then you have a problem.
2007-02-27 22:37:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never say never, as in "he'd never cheat on me." What he's doing is a form of cheating. He's exploring someone's possible sexual attraction to him. I can promise you with almost certainty that given the opportunity, he would cheat. It's a fun game for many people. Eventually to be a learning lesson for you both. But don't worry, whatever happens in this relationship, everything will be fine. After a lot of pain, you'll both come out stronger and wiser. My advice is don't do what a lot of people do and play his game. Be your loyal self. Just say, "Us having mutual female friends is great, but I don't feel comfortable with you communicating online with girls. I don't think it's fair to me. Would you feel comfortable with me communicating online with guys?" He's likely to say, "Yes, no problem. I trust you." You could say, "Thank you. And I'm worthy of that trust." He might say, "Don't you trust me?" And you could say, "Yes, I do. But I also understand the nature of humans, and if you're asking questions like: Could you see yourself with me?, you're going beyond the boundaries of a normal platonic friendship."
2007-02-27 22:44:55 · answer #4 · answered by itry007 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st mistake " he would never cheat on me". Your setting yourself up to look really stupid. You know you can't trust him you just don;t want to face the reality of that. I know it's hard but I'd move on before you really get hurt cause it sounds as if it's going to happen. You've already stated that you can't trust him. If he can't be honest with you about this stuff then he's doing something he shouldn't be.
2007-02-27 22:39:00 · answer #5 · answered by DeAnna B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's texting things like that, then I wouldnt stay with him. You should be asking him "Could you see yourself with me? Because if you keep lying to me and sending texts that are very personal in nature, then why should I stay with you?" You dont need that kind of agrivation. If he cant tell you the truth straight out then how are you supposed to trust him? Ask him that and see what he says.
2007-02-27 22:34:50 · answer #6 · answered by Samantha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't get angry at me but if he's not really telling you anything he's either a player which means you have lots to worry bouts, or maybe he's getting girlfriend advice so he can surprise you with something which is something very little to worry about, or maybe just needs more friends of the opposite gender x] (though this does happen pretty often)
it's probably the 3rd option just so ya know
don't worry to much bouts it
2007-02-27 22:33:47 · answer #7 · answered by May K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you SURE he would never cheat on you? If he's lying I don't know why you would think that. I'd have a serious talk with him and depending on how serious you are about your relationship (and your age) consider couples therapy. But, he still doesn't sound like he's work the hassle.
2007-02-27 22:33:08 · answer #8 · answered by 43372 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think u should spy on him to see if hes really cheating on u that way u should know whether to break up with him or not or maybe talk to each other about what might be bugging u or him and u can make things better
2007-02-27 22:35:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my dear it sounds like he doesn't deserve you, and you shouldn't settle for anything less than what you want, you are a special and important person, who deserves to be respected and loved. if he cant give you all that and TRUST, ID DUMP HIS ***, because my dear like i always say if you dint have trust, you don't have a relationship, at-least not one worth saving.go find someone who deserves a sweet loving, honest and trustworthy girl like you, it may take time, but that's OK, you've got time. good luck and god bless
2007-02-27 22:39:49 · answer #10 · answered by debbie d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋