Deadbeat parents - which is worse- a mom or a dad?

Question

So, everyone loves to talk about "deadbeat dads" - but what is your opinion about "deadbeat moms"? Better - worse and why?

Answer 1

No contest... it is a tie. It disgusts me that parents abandon their responsibilities even if the responsible thing to do is adopt the child out to a better home. A deadbeat is a deadbeat is a deadbeat... gender does NOT apply.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

Deadbeat Moms are much worse because of the bond built in the womb can never ever be broken by a normal healthy child. The pain that bond causes when mom is a deadbeat piece of garbage is beyond belief.

It is far worse than the pain of a deadbeat dad.

Answer 4

Either way, both would be the same. Either parent who doesn't support the children in a separation/divorce is wrong. The children shouldn't suffer because two adults have decided they are better off apart. Both parents needs to be active in their childrens lives, whether they are the custodial parent or not. Sometimes society dictates that the maternal influence is stronger, but I don't believe that. Each parent provides and contributes different aspects to the raising of the children. There are different situations which calls for the children being raised by the mother or father and society shouldn't judge what they don't know. But either way, being a "deadbeat" parent is wrong.

Answer 5

Sometimes there are reasons for parents to wash their hands of their children; especially, when they become teenagers...I know because I have a sibling that takes in children through the children aid society, and there are all different reasons for their placements.

As for a TRUE DEADBEAT MOM, DAD OR BOTH, I think that both are just as bad... A child needs his father in certain ways and also needs their mother for the nurturing sort of way..

Being rejected by a parent is always a hard thing for a child to understand, and some become rebellious unfortunately...They need to know that they are not the one with the problem it is his parents who are in denial... Until then, the only thing we can do is be there in support, understanding, compromising, encouraging ways..The things that a parent should show a child as they grow, so this way that child can still grow, learn, feel accepted and so much more..

In my book, everyone matters and should not settle for less..To those who have doubted me,,, here's to you...You trying to bring us down are still down, but as for me, you have made me a stronger person and now I can finally prove you wrong and be in a good place with myself...Ya!!! Now look @ me...

I would love to help such children and my sibling too.

Answer 6

deadbeat-moms are worse because they seem to have more contact with you. That doesn't help at all socially or emotionally. Deadbeat dads suck but they are either too busy with themselves or doing nothing and don't want to.

Answer 7

Neither (mother or father) is better or worse. If you both agreed to bring the child into the world then you should take responsibility for raising the child. If you asked each the parents of 100 kids, separately, if they were happy to hear they were expecting I would bet that more then half of the parents were not happy at all. That doesn’t mean they don’t love their child(ren), just means that they weren’t ready for the responsibility.

The only person it hurts the child and other family members.

Answer 8

A Deadbeat parent IS a Deadbeat Parent .. and both are EQUALLY GUILTY for their LACK of concern about the children that they helped to bring to life.

There is NO EXCUSE in the world for abandoning or tossing out or not providing for a child ... no matter what. I don't advocate living in any relationship that is abusive ....

HOWEVER ... abandoning and NOT caring whether your child has food, clothing, shelter, and when you can't even find the time to give them a call or write a letter ... that is just CALLOUS, Abusive, Sociopathic, and WRONG!

Answer 9

The issue of the sex is not a factor in judging. The fact that so many people create lives and then leave that life floundering is incomprehensible. The people that all agree the child first and then abandon their own child make me filled with sorrow. How can a child dumped by his own MOTHER OR FATHER ever feel complete? The mother is no more or no less that the father, make certain that you understand that the pain is equal, the responsibility equal and the void left from the selfish act and disregard is equal'..,..

Answer 10

Anyone that doesnt live up to their responsibilty of a parent is "deadbeat". Children do not ask to be born into this world. As parents we chose to bring them here, we need too and should provide them with love , nurturing, guidance and protection and always put them before ourselves in every way. Any parent that doesnt should be ashamed of themselves.