Am I being Paranoid?

Question

Hi everyone! I've been living with my boyfriend for 5 years. I just found out that two months ago he had "dinner" with his ex girlfriend while I was working. He never mentioned a word of it to me. I found out through his 10 year old niece. When I asked him what was up, he said I am paranoid and that she just happened to be at the same place! I have also caught him lying about a lot of other things that are totally insignificant lately as well. What are all of your thoughts??? Thanks in advance!

Oh, I forgot to mention! This is the same ex girlfriend that I caught him cheating with 3 1/2 years ago. Don't know if that makes a difference. It's just that I probably shouldn't play around anymore if this isn't going anywhere, because I am 34 and he is 35 and we currently have no concrete plans for marriage or children. I would like both! Thanks everyone for your great responses!

Answer 1

A lie is seldom "Insignificant". There is always a reason behind the lie. I have a son that couldn't tell you the truth. He lies for what others would think, was "no reason". He has had six relationships in five years, and, carried the baggage around, that each one has created. You enter into every relationship with your baggage, and, leave the relationship with more and more baggage. It isn't like the baggage you can put into hiding into the closet. It sits right there, where you live. You have to look right at it, and, step around it every single day of your life. That kind of living requires honesty! There is no such thing as being a little bit honest. Be honest with yourself. Take an honset inventory of your realtionship, and, ask yourself, "If this is what God would have chosen for you?"

Good luck and God Bless.

Answer 2

Yes ur being way to paranoid. Theres alot of guys out there that are great friends with their ex's, but still love u and only u. The thing is, if u trust him, then u shouldnt have anything to worry about.

Answer 3

you could be paranoid, coz the dinner with his ex was something he seemed to be hiding from you and since then, you're more sensitive to everything that happens - though if they'd happened previously when you weren't suspicious, you may not have thought anything about them.

however, i've been in your position and turns out my paranoia was justified. i'd just leave it for a while and see what happens - don't look to much into things but don't ignore the signs either!

Answer 4

i think he may be cheating on you, keep an eye on him. if suddenly his interests change greatly, or whenever soemone calls him he goes into another room, ask him whats up. say, "i know i sound paranoid, but i love you a lot and i was just wondering if you love me too" something like that. hope this helps.

Answer 5

The only thing I can say, once a liar always a liar. Honesty is very important in a relationship,

Answer 6

your not being paranoid,what you think it is, it is. when he starts lying about different things, the relationship is headed for the worst. you need to try talking to him to save the relationship, or just leave him. dont give him too many chances.

Answer 7

u r being a little paranoid but still if hes lying u should b worried

Answer 8

that does sound pretty suspicious....but i dont know. u mite just hav to wait and see. if he really luvs u, we wouldnt lie. and if he lied, then said there was nothing about it, then that usually means that hes hiding something. good luck!

Answer 9

he might be getting bored of the relationship...i mean, 5 yrs? yikes.

Answer 10

yes