is it possible for an 18 year old girl?

Question

and have never had anyone be in love with you or not even have had anyone have a crush on you. Picture a girl not that pretty, goes to school but no clubs or dances and ****, and is very shy. I mean, is a girl like that just supposed be lonley all the time and envy every couple, happy or not, she sees?! would a guy ever be intrested in that kinda of a person?

Answer 1

It's entirely possible and it's happening to lots of other people around the world, so stop worrying about it. I was very shy and didn't come out of my shell until I was about 25. I'd recommend finding an interest - something that will stretch you or challenge you. It'll help you to mix with other people and gain confidence. Are you going to go to college? Try something different there - I took acting even though I was EXTREMELY shy, and it changed my life. I made all sorts of friends, found confidence to talk to guys, and even found a better job.

Good luck! This time will pass...

Answer 2

i'm 18 too and haven't been liked by more than one guy. My best friend hasn't been crushed on by anyone. A number of my other friends have never been in a relationship. It's pretty normal, I think.

Being shy is hard, I know because I've been there. Find some small steps to take to meet more people. Sit somewhere different on the schoolbus or in class or in the cafeteria, and say hi to whoever is near you. Smile every time you make eye contact with someone. Ask a friend to introduce you to people he/she knows. You don't have to join a club to spread your social horizons.

Also, have some perspective. Realize that guys have probably liked you without telling you. You may seem too mysterious, or mature, or something. I didn't have a very high self-esteem until I started taking the city bus and got a job in a public place. I had a lot of guys check me out and hit on me and it had NEVER happened before. Most of them were old or gross, but it still made me realize that what they were doing openly, guys at my school might be doing without my noticing.

Probably if the people around you aren't head over heels for you, you aren't for them either. At some point, in college groups or your chosen workplace you will be around people who are a lot more like you, and the odds that someone will ask you out will be a lot better than in your high school environment.

My best advice is, buy yourself a treat--a new mascara or a designer haircut, and maybe that will increase your confidence a little. Eventually someone is going to fall for you. Remember that you are comparing yourself with your peers. Outside of high school there is lots less competition. Your age puts you in the top percentage of desirable women. Guys will fall all over themselves to get your number, because you'll stand out in the crowd.

Answer 3

My first BF was at age 19. If anyone was even remotely interested in me before that, I had no clue. No, you're not supposed to be lonely. You're supposed to get out there, hang out with your friends, and get involved in stuff at school. Get busy. Do stuff. Start a club at your school. Join clubs that you're interested in. You'll be so busy doing stuff with your FRIENDS that you won't be lonely, or worrying about the boyfriend you don't have (this goes for College as well).

Boyfriends aren't always what us girls dream of. Sometimes they are, but remember that they're human, and that there's no such thing as Mr. Right. There's Mr. Right-for-you. And he's out there somewhere, waiting for Ms. Right-for-him (you).

Answer 4

Youve got a very tough choice to make. Either continue with the self loathing self pity crap. Or do something that will get you a date. there are so many lonely guys out there and some that are way to busy to look for a relationship. IT IS 2007! women always moan and complain about wanting equal rights/pay with men then turn around and wait for a man to make a move on them because thats the way its been done in our society. WELL DONT WAIT! many guys would apprieciate a woman making the first move. as far as meeting someone. Join clubs, go to church whatever your into that would have single men attending. pick out someone that you find interesting. GO UP TO THEM AND ASK THEM IF THEY ARE SINGLE! if yes ASK THEM OUT!!!!!!!!.

..life's too short for this bull**** that your putting yourself threw

Answer 5

all people fall in love at one time or another in their life,.many guys would like to find a shy g/f. because some girls are just too outspoken and mean sometimes..i think a shy girl would be better to talk with,she would be a good listener also..you are not supposed to be lonely, you are supposed to be loved just like anyone else, i think people should look inside a person first,and not at just the outside..you cant tell a book by it's cover..somewhere inside you is a fantastic careing girl..there are many guys who would consider themselves lucky to meet you, because actually some guys are shy also..

Answer 6

It may be possible, but hard to prove. Not everyone reveals their crushes to another person. She doesn't have to envy every couple.

But she certainly isn't making an effort. Sitting inside, not talking to people and not taking care of herself physically won't endear her to anyone. If she wants to meet some guys, she is going have to get out more and talk to them. And she should buy some new clothes or get a makeover to up her appearance and confidence.

Good luck. :)

Answer 7

I think so... Im a guy and im pretty shy myself. I've asked myself that question. Its a half and half. The pretty people have the first half, the first layer (the sight you see) then the personality, the other half, which is after the beauty attracts you. Trying to be beautiful will only attract certain types of people, but the people you want would be those who would want you for your inner being...

Answer 8

People are not loved because they are pretty. One has to realize that when you love you are loved back. That brings up the question. What is love. Love is giving. Not focusing on yourself but, instead what can you do for others.

There are many people in this world in need of your attention. Volunteer give your time to them. Volunteer to help animals, children, the elderly.

Join a singles church group and devote your time to God. You will eventually meet the man of your dreams while you are showing love and care to other people.

Answer 9

First of all, you are probably much prettier than you realize, and even if you aren't pretty on the outside, you shouldn't let it get you down. What's inside your heart and mind matters so much more. You should be glad if you don't look like a supermodel...people usually notice them ONLY because of their looks. If a guy falls in love with a not-so-pretty girl, then he usually loves her for the right reasons--because she is a good person with a good brain and a good heart. Cheer up, accept yourself, and go out, so that others can get to know the beauty that you have inside!

Answer 10

You sound exactly like me.
You'll be fine, I didn't have my first real relationship until I was 21.. and now I'm back to dating (which is much funner when your in your late teens/ twenties).
Trust me, you will start to meet different guys who are more interesting.. and they'll be interested in you.
The best thing for you to do is develope yourself and become confident. Try taking some acting classes, they may help you overcome your shyness. Get out and do more things, get to know people. You'll find your confidence growing.. and you'll discover more interest from others.