I am insecure. It is something I have been working on for a while. Being such, I have issues trusting myself let alone others. My boyfriend is amazing. He is kind, loving, and thoughtful. He treats me so well and I don't feel I truly deserve him. Pity party over, down to the dirt. He gave me his password for his account on an related site so I could check something involving the both of us. Later on, I tried the same password with his email address and got in. I browsed through his emails, trying to find something, a flaw, something to prove to me that he was an a**hole just as my ex had been-something that would sabotage our great relationship perhaps. I knew what I was doing was wrong before, during and after I did it and the guilt I feel now is literally painful. I need some opinions on what my next step should be. Confess? Forgive myself and forget? I'm at a loss.
2007-02-27 13:58:46 · 2 answers · asked by Jayme 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have obviously had a bad experience in the past, which still weighs heavy on you. Its a form of self preservation to doubt and mistrust.
Just let it go. You found nothing, so let your mind be at rest that this fella is not the same as the one that hurt you.
Your low self esteem appears to be your biggest problem and something that can be dealt with. This site here offers a free course which will help build your confidence in yourself.
http://www.self-confidence.co.uk/self.html
When you have learnt to love and trust yourself, you wont have a problem trusting your boyfriend.
Good luck to you for the future.
2007-03-03 01:17:17 · answer #1 · answered by Gail : 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confess. Apologize. Praise him lavishly for being such a good guy.
Reward him VERY explicitly in bed.
You'll be ahead in multiple ways. :)
2007-02-27 23:35:22 · answer #2 · answered by Curt Monash 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋