There is this guy (J), he is sweet, nice, and he is the closest thing my friend S has ever had to having an older bro, they are totally close. He feels the same way about me, like I am just her friend. Hes nice to me and not attracted and he isnt my type either. BUT HERE IS ZE PROBLEM! My boyfriend absolutly hates S! Because of this reason, he wont let me take any of J's calls or see him.
Well I was hanging out with a girlfriend of mine and she wanted to go to another friends house so we drove over and everyone was having a good time. I didnt even hang out in the same room as J or see him like at all.
My bf totally flipped! He said I should have called him to come beat J's ***. This guy (my bf) is NINETEEN! He still acts immature about these things. He said from now on if there are any guys where I go he has to be there. Is this fair? We have been dating 4 years. He always brings up when I got raped too, like "If you dont want that to happen again, I have to be there when u go out"
2007-02-27 13:54:52 · 5 answers · asked by metalstefl 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Honey, he's a control freak drop him!
2007-02-27 14:00:13 · answer #1 · answered by proud2btysmom 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He is weird because he is insecure, unfortunately it has been my experience that if you don't put your foot down in the beginning of the relationship, you are doomed. He sounds young, there may be hope for him if you can get him to talk about it to someone. But if you cant, My best advice would be to move on. Taking care of yourself is not failing in a relationship. Ask yourself why he is jealouse, how does he behave, what experiences does he have to work through? When it comes down to it you have three choices. Live with the guy and like it, live with the guy and hate it, or leave the guy...it is all up to you.
2007-02-27 14:05:07 · answer #2 · answered by used_car_girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a control freak and this is NOT the kind of guy you want to marry. Guys that are this jealous end up being abusers. Is this something that you want your kids to grow up around? Dump him. You do not need him.
2007-02-27 14:02:26 · answer #3 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that is an effed up thing to say to someone who was raped he is blaming you and not the monster who did it to you ......it sounds like he is to controlling and you should get out before he gets physical
2007-02-27 14:01:47 · answer #4 · answered by stacie_collins2001 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
hate to tell you this, but if he is this possessive now, it's only going to get worse. Especially if you get married!!!
2007-02-27 14:01:20 · answer #5 · answered by two_rose_tattoo 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋