my 17 months old has ever slept all night she wake up every 2-3 hours wanting her bottle ,she is also very..?

Question

hard to get to sleep at night normally she falls asleep in our arms or in the stroller, can you pls give me some help / ideas on how to get her to sleep and stay asleep for longer that 2-3 hours?

please only give nice helpful ideas not ones like 17 months of bad parenting as this dose not help me at all ,

Answer 1

She's become dependent on the presence of certain conditions in order to fall asleep. It sounds like being rocked and having a bottle. Imagine if you fell asleep snuggled in your bed with your pillow and blanket just like you are used to, but sometime in the middle of the night your pillow disappears. You wake up and notice that your pillow is gone. Do you think you could fall asleep without it? It would be difficult. Your daughter feels the same way when she falls asleep in your arms or in the stroller. Then she wakes up in a different place without the comforts that she fell asleep with. Try changing her routine to eliminate things that will not be there when she wakes up during the night (ie. you, the bottle, the stroller) and giver her something that will be with her during the night (a blanket, a stuffed animal, etc.) Read "How to Solve Your Child's Sleep Problems" by Dr Richard Ferber.

Good luck.

Answer 2

I am sorry you are being accused of being a bad parent. No one should blame someone for that because they don't know all the details.

The problem lies with needing the bottle for comfort. This is going to be a tough issue to solve. You will have to start weening her from the bottle and then when that is done you will need to get her used to going to sleep without your aid.

Not to worry, you don't have to do this cold turkey. give your child one less bottle each week at night, and during those stressful times comfort her a bit perhaps buy her a new stuffed animal or blanky and start making memories that she can be comforted by. You make the memories by playing with the lubby when you are putting her to bed. She is going to cry. You will stay in the room but you will not go near the bed. You will sit on the floor with your head down so that she can hear your sound. Soon she will be able to go to sleep on her on.

Please give it a try, the longer she stays on the bottle the worse it will be, but I promise you she will adjust.

You are not a bad parent you just simply did not know what to do.
I don't know why some people have to be so cruel.

Answer 3

Start a routine! Start putting your child to bed by 8:00 at the lateast as kids at this age need about 12 hours of sleep a night! It's going to be difficult though as your daughter is almost two! Maybe, after dinner, take a lavendar bath or use something that is calming and will make your child sleepy. Then, put on pajamas and read a bedtime story. My daughter, who is 19 mo., personally loves the Fischer Price Ocean Wonders Aquarium. No, your daughter at 17 mo. isn't too old for it. It makes swooshing sounds and lights up as the fish dance around. A nightlight in her room may help too.

As for getting off of the bottle, look for a sippie cup that has a tip that is simular to the bottle. I suggest NUBY cups available for about $1.50 each at Wal-Mart or Babies 'R Us. It's the easiest transitioning cup even though they aren't spill proof. Start with mik though as I started with juice and water and it took forever for my daughter to accept milk out of a sippie. Start slow....a little bit in the morning, if she doesn't accept it, then try again in the afternoon. Be patient and don't force the issue....just place it on her tray when she eats. If she's thirsty, she'll try it. Don't just take away the bottle cold turkey though as you're daughter will become dehydrated. Good Luck!

Answer 4

Well there are some things you need to change and routines you need to change before you'll be able to change her sleep cycle. Firstly ween your daughter, this is good for her development - social and physical. Get her use to being in her bed or crib, which ever you are using. Let her get accustom to being in there without you, a few minutes at a time. Don't always give into her demanding something when she wakes up. At 17 months its not the end of her world if you let her cry it out. If she clean, warm, fed and safe, she can cry for a while. Make sure her bedroom is dark. Get her a new nighttime routine, I don't know, what ever works for you. A cup of warm milk, a cuddle and a story in a rocking chair, then another story when she's in her crib, a kiss and then she's on her own. What ever works for you.

Sometimes children resist stages of growing up, especially around this age until about 3, some want to stay "babies". Don't let her, it won't do her any favours.

Answer 5

She's simly used to having a bottle that's all. At 17 months she should be getting a sippy cup. Start that slowly as she's probably become very attached to it. I'd do it in the day - so you aren't awake at night with her.

Let her cry for the bottle but don't give in. If she's hungry she'll eat.

Once you get her used to the day time sippy then get her on the night time routine of no bottle. Start a night time routine if you haven't already. Start her off at 8 pm with a fresh diaper, change of clothes, her lovie, and a book. Then, at 8:30 rock her/sing lullabies. Have her in bed by 8:45/9 pm at the latest.

If she wakes up let her cry.

She is perfectly capable of sleeping through the night. And, does not need the bottle for nutrution. It's going to take time and effort on your part. You should start seeing improvement at 4 weeks and really make headway at 6 weeks.

Answer 6

She shouldn't be having a bottle at this point anymore. She should be eating regular meals and the bottle is just a habit at this point. It's going to be a rough week or so while she adjusts but don't give in. The bottle will do idamage to her teeth, not to mention the developmental issues she may face due to it. She should be drinking milk out of a sippy cup and regular cup.

She also does not need to get up in the middle of the night and shouldn't need to fall asleep in your arms or the stroller. She does this because she can and because you enable her to. Again, it may take a week or two to get her to go to sleep on her own, but she needs to learn or you're going to have even bigger problems down the road.

You need to put her in her crib with no bottle, and let her cry. She'll probably cry for hours the first few nights, but will get better with each night. Go in every twenty minutes or so (only if she cries for twenty minutes straight. If she stops and starts again, start the timing over) and pat her back but whatever you do, DO NOT pick her up. It's going to be hard. It's going to be the hardest thing you'll ever have to do but it's got to be done for both your sakes.

When she wakes in the middle of the night, ignore her. If she cries for an extended period of time, again go in and verbally soothe her but do not pick her up. It could exacerbate the crying so you might be better off not going in at all...same thing with putting her to sleep in the first place.
Now's the time to nip this problem because if you don't, don't bother buying a toddler bed because you'll have a third person bunking with you and it's not fun. Good luck and if you need reassurance, I'll do my best!

Answer 7

First off, why is your 17 month old still on a bottle? The bottle should be gone around 12 months. It might help if you gave her a low sugar snack before bed and a cup of milk... then put her to bed. Sometimes you have to lay and listen to them cry for a while, then get them... each time they wake up make the time you wait a little longer. Eventually they will learn to put themselves back to sleep.

As for the bottle, don't give her anything from it but water. Offer the milk, juice anything else but water through a cup. It won't take long for them not to want the bottle.

Answer 8

you have to be firm, and consistent , she is the boss here and she knows it, I've raised 4 kids, was a nanny [in England] also a foster mom and never had that problem.
First of all make sure all her other needs were met early on, at 19 mos. she should have had her dinner by 5, bath, quiet play time, and whatever else you do at your home.
Excitement like company at night, loud voices, loud t.v. phones ringing, lights, older kids playing, keeps most toddlers awake. She needs serenity in her little life, especially after 6 p.m. and hopefully she had some outdoor play time during the day. Who is with her all day? Do they allow her to sit too much and watch tv all day w/no real physical play? If you are home; a nice daily [15 minutes] walk will help her to relax later.
If none of this applies; she is being obstinate or merely thinks it is perfectly normal to get up during the night. it is not.
After she's had her bedtime routine, story or whatever-do not allow her to ever get out of her room once you have left, I hope she is still in a crib, with the rails at the lowest level. Also, is her room too hot? remember; her door should be closed.
Close the door, she will be ok. She may sleep by the door, crying on and off for a few nights, this won't harm her. For older, [2-] naughty children; I would smack their butt if they dared to come out of the room. Be firm, be pleasant but be the one in control. Also be sure her daytime nap wasn't too late in the day, or too long.

Answer 9

DEAR
FIRST OFF I AM VERY SORRY ALL THE PEOPLE ARE GIVEN YOU A REALLY HARD TIME ABOUT THIS MATTER WITH YOUR LOVING CHILD YOU BROUGHT IN THIS WORLD YOU ARE NOT A BAD PARENT OK. AS FOR THE BOTTLE JUST CUT DOWN ON THE MILK GIVEN AT NIGHT GIVE A BOTTLE UNTIL AGE TOO BUT ALSO USE REGULAR FOOD LIKE YOU EAT JUST CHOP IT IN A BLINDER SO SHE DOES NOT GET HURT WHILE EATING IT OK PUT HER IN THE BED WITH YOU UNTIL SHE IS OUT AND I MEAN OUT SOUND TO SLEEP IT WILL ONLY TAKE 30 MINUTES AND YOU CAN GIVE YOUR SELF THAT IF YOU MAKE HER LITTLE TUMMY POKE OUT WHERE HER LITTLE BELLY BUTTON SHOWS SHE IS FULL AND WILL SLEEP ALL NIGHT LONG JUST LIKE LIONEL RICHIE SINGS ABOUT OK TAKE CARE GOOD LUCK

Answer 10

Well, 17 months is a little too old to be given a bottle. I have a 20 month old and he left the bottle alone 8 months ago. If you ween your baby off the bottle then maybe your baby will grow out of the newborn stage. Try to shorten the naps during the day. If your baby tends to nap less during the day then she is more likely to rest throughout the night.