Three people in a family;father,mother,son;the son is suppose clean dishes,but cuase the son mainly stays around the kitchen area,the father expects him to keep the kitchen clean.In the kitchen is like a table/counter where people at the counter eat sometimes&drink.Although it's the son's job to keep the kitchen clean,if the son continually cleans off the counter&the father continually dirties the counter;like there's a sink but the father puts dirty dishes on the counter.There's a trashcan,but the father&mother day after day,week after week leave trash on the counter.Is the son justified in being a little ticked at the parents who suppoedly believe in cleanliness,but actions show differently?And when the dishes&trash are left on the counter,the parents get mad at the son evan though they created the mess.Is the son justified in his feeling about the parents habits?Or the parents justified in being mad at the son,evan though they made the mess?
2007-02-27 13:40:29 · 9 answers · asked by Maurice H 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
The parents are right in making their son pull his share of the load. However, the son should not be tied to the kitchen 24 hours a day. I propose that the son should clean the area one time a day - preferably after supper when things will be the messiest. Everything put there after he's cleaned it can stay there until the following day.
2007-02-27 13:48:24 · answer #1 · answered by Think.for.your.self 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If the work has to be done, and the parents and the son are all unhappy, then they all are wrong.
A part of being a team is working out how work should be divided so that everyone feels they are doing their part.
It doesn't really matter who made the mess, unless the messing was optional. If they are a family, then activity in the kitchen benefits everybody.
Depending on the age of the son, the parents might be more responsible. Very young children aren't able to cope with responsibilities as well as adults, and do not have the control over their lives that adults have. But at the same time, they must be taught responsibility and how to work.
2007-03-03 07:50:17 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. Bad Day 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son is soul responsible for the dishes. He doens't have too many responsiblities so checking to see if the counter and dishes are clean are his responsibility and they should be clean all the time. If would be different if he had other things to do but if that is what is expected of him, then yes, the parents have a right to be upset. My son dirties other things and I just clean them up. What is the son going to be like once he moves out his parents house if he cant keep the dishes clean? Also, if it's hard on both the son and parents talk to each other and explain how they feel. It's hard to be a young person so good luck and just do your best. Take care.
2007-02-27 21:52:50 · answer #3 · answered by Mary 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
'Cleaning the kitchen' should not include picking up everything after everyone as if they're a (young) child who can't find the trashcan. The parents should at least stack the dishes in the sink & throw their own trash away, then the son can wash the dishes & take the trash out. Leaving dishes just anywhere, leaving thrash just anywhere, not cleaning up your own spills, that isn't acceptable behaviour of anyone, anywhere, and it hasn't been since slavery was abolished. Often teens do this to mom, that isn't right, but mom doing it to a teenager isn't right either!
2007-02-28 00:00:29 · answer #4 · answered by Sheriam 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The son should have some chores or household duties. However, I do not believe the son, should be constantly cleaning up the kitchen area. It should happen at a certain time, preferably after dinner. Anyone making a mess before or after should clean up behind themselves. And set a better example. Good luck and God bless****
2007-02-27 22:36:15 · answer #5 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The parents should have some respect and see that they have a son who is even interested in keeping the kitchen clean. That's rare, why abuse him like that. Sounds like the parents are slack or they are trying the son's patience.
2007-03-02 14:46:51 · answer #6 · answered by Nish 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cleaning the counter of dishes is like clearing a dining table; however, I don't understand the "trash"part. Everyone is responsible for removing their trash and placing it in the garbage. People don't leave their "trash" on a dining table.
Common sense.
2007-02-28 12:12:11 · answer #7 · answered by Pacifica 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The son should ask his parents for a new set of chores, because they must not be happy with the way he is cleaning the kitchen!
2007-02-27 23:01:11 · answer #8 · answered by Sandy Lou 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The child is most definately justified in his anger.I would be too.But what can you say not to offend your parents?
2007-02-27 22:57:16 · answer #9 · answered by BaDonkaDonk 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋