Is it bad to be a shy person?

Question

To me, I think it's bad to be a shy person, as I am a shy person myself, because everyone says to build more confidence, yea. I have built more confidence from my friend, she only got me an inch out of my shell, but I'm still quiet. Is it really hard for shy people to get a boyfriend?

Answer 1

I'm terribly shy, and I haven't had trouble getting boyfriends... and it's proven that being shy isn't something that you can just change.. even if you try to build more confidence, it won't actually "cure" you, and it probably won't have any long term effects. It's not something you can help. And it's definitely not bad, it's just a part of you.

Answer 2

It's not "bad" to be shy. Shyness is not quite a character trait, moreso than it is, a behavior. Shyness is actually a behavior issue. I know this because I took a Psychology class, and we discussed this, actually. It definitely has a lot to do with low confidence and self-esteem. Feelings of nervousness, embarassment, awkwardness, humiliation, or intimidation...

It's not hard for shy people to get just a boyfriend. It's hard in general, because shy people hold themselves back. Sometimes they do it intentionally and sometimes, UNintentionally. This keeps them from accomplishing things, because they let opportunities and chances pass them by. It's difficult to overcome shy behavior, but I used to be the shyest little girl. It got real bad, where I'd bury my face into my mom's butt, because I was embarassed when others would make fun of me, as a child. I kept a lot to myself- which is also a problem.

When you keep things to yourself, like your feelings, and emotions, and thoughts, no one really knows you or understands you. It's important for people to know you/understand you to meet your wants/needs and whatnot.

It's not being shy that makes it hard to make friends or get boyfriends... It's when you're FEELING shy, and when the feelings of shyness keeps you from approaching people and whatnot.

Usually, shy people ARE quiet, like you... and so they don't really tell others much, or approach others... which makes getting a boyfriend difficult. It honestly depends on you(the person), but I do notice that shy people admit that it is harder for them.