I know it's wrong of me to pry into my boyfriend's email and myspace account, forgive me! But I don't think that takes away from what's inside those accounts. I've seen him sending messages to different females about getting together for sex, about him trying to meet them and get to know them, about him wanting to be with them. I've just seen everything and when I confronted him he says 'It's just the internet, I can get up here and tell them anything because its just the internet, it doesnt mean anything'. Am I wrong or silly for believing that it's still cheating? Am I wrong or silly for feeling betrayed. He says he's never met these girls in person or anything like that, but I can't help but feel betrayed and cheated on. Am I right or wrong?
2007-02-27 13:34:24 · 26 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are 100% right. If he has enough nerve to solictate sexual favors through e-mail and myspace then who knows what else he is doing behind your back. I think casual flirting on-line is perfectly fine but once the conversations turn sexual then its a problem. Of course, he can say that your being silly because he doesn't know how you feel until its been done to him. He can tell you that he has never met any of these females but he could be lying about that as well. I think you two seriously need to sit down and reevaluate what you both expect in a relationship and each other and take it from there. Good luck!!
2007-02-27 13:44:23 · answer #1 · answered by Alexxus 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you read your boyfriend's emails/messages.
My question is, how were you able to do that? Did he give you the pasword? Or... did he leave his stuff out in the open, so you peeked around?
If he gave you his password(s), it's not prying, because he should have known that by giving you his password(s), that he is indirectly allowing you to look through his private stuff. Giving someone a password like that, is like giving someone permission. If he has nothing to hide, he'll give it to you. Unless there's a great reason as to why he wouldn't.
But anyway, it doesn't matter about whether or not it's real life or the internet. You don't have to already know the person to consider it as cheating. It's possible for people to meet off the internet. Usually, when people are in a relationship where they consider eachother "boyfriend" and "girlfriend," it's a committed relationship. If it wasn't, you wouldn't be soo upset. So, you have every right to be upset, since I'm sure you take the relationship seriously. If he knows that, and he doesn't want to be serious with you, he shouldn't be with you if he wants to mess around with many girls.
His excuse about "it's just the internet" is a lie. Honestly, why would he be lying to girls, anyway? Why would someone do that? It's pointless. What'll he get out of lying to girls over the internet? Why is he wasting his time, if he's not going to benefit from it? I personally think he's lying. I have experience in online/offline dating, and I know that guys know if it's serious or not.
Also, if he's lying to girls ONLINE, he MIGHT be lying to you about things as well.
You're wrong for believing it's cheating, but you're right if you believe that it's deceitful and betraying.
You're right. He betrayed you, whether or not it was on purpose. But he hasn't cheated on you unless he has actually done things with those other girls or whatever.
2007-02-27 14:04:26 · answer #2 · answered by Nini says: 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you have a right to feel hurt and betrayed. How would he like it if he found something from me in your emails saying that stuff he said. He would call you a s l u t and probably be very upset.
But at the sametime...None of this internet stuff is real until they meet face to face. It's all just one big lie . I have had people on here tell me they love me..then they leave me..and I would get all upset. Then a buddy of mine said " Why are you so hurt when chicks on the net mess with you"?? " They are not real, you can't look into there eyes, touch them or hold them..." " They are not real... They are just a bunch of word on a screen with no feelings behind them. " AND YOU KNOW WHAT HE"S RIGHT !!!!
they are not real.. just type and some text.
Until he bangs one of these chicks left it go .. or you are gonna worry everytime hes on the net.
BTW your avatar is hot care to chat?
2007-02-27 13:45:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
While it's not the same thing as "technically" cheating you still have every right to feel betrayed. Why does he feel the need to say these things? If he wants to truly be with you it should be reflected in everything he does and says. Also many times one thing can lead to another, and he could get himself into a situation where he finds a girl he really does want to have sex with and might end up cheating on you. It's no reason to break up with him, but I think it is grounds for a serious talk and to put your foot down and ask him to stop.
Also if his words on the internet mean nothing to him, how much value does he put into the words he tells you?
2007-02-27 13:42:28 · answer #4 · answered by Katie A 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I believe it is cheating and I know for sure that my bf spends time chatting with different girls on the web; I've been in there and he's doing it. He has some kind of message so that whoever he's online with - has an idea of what he's looking for. I've tried doing the same, (he seems not to care) anyways, and I ended up letting two guys think that I was single and they were both interested, but the guilt was too much and so I just forgot about them. I am not answering their messages and for sure I don't want to keep on leading them on. My bf even has a picture of him set out on web so that they can see him and he even stays online with the same girls forever. I don't know but I don't want to get on his nerves or accuse him of being unfaithful like that, but he is really make me wonder. I believe that if he is like all of the other guys who ask girls for their pics; I bet he has quite a few girl's pictures all over his account. I am thinking this on my bf and yours. Hope you find a solution to your problem because I have no idea how I am going to do with mine. Best of luck from here to you.
2007-02-27 13:47:12 · answer #5 · answered by Ladyinred 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 02:28:28 · answer #6 · answered by leckie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend is full of crap. People do hook up as a result of meeting on the internet. You were snooping and that's not cool. But, in your case, you found out some valuable information. I wouldn't sit on a hot stove with this one. I have to be honest, I don't think I would trust him after this. And to answer your question, yes it's cheating.
2007-02-27 13:42:42 · answer #7 · answered by Snobunny 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is looking for "greener pastures". Sooner or later, he will run across what he thinks is the "perfect" woman and he will step over the line.
I seen an email cartoon that showed a young man IMing what he thought was a beautiful, full figured young blonde. On the other side of the cartoon it showed who he was talking to.........a BIG, fat, unshaven, beer drinking, MALE slob!!! His day will come.
Good luck. Pops
2007-02-27 13:46:08 · answer #8 · answered by Pops 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're wrong for snooping into someone else's privacy. You don't own this guy, you're not married to him, he has the right to do whatever he wants on the internet and you don't have the right to snoop. The only reason you feel cheated on is because you went looking for something you had not right to look for in the first place. The old addage "be careful what you go looking for, you might find it" rings true. You snooped and you found it. You SHOULD be happy, because that's what you were looking for.
2007-02-27 13:39:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
girl he is making a fool out of you. trust me if hes trying to meet and have sex on the net think about the real world hes having sex with other women. the internet or not he is cheating on you seem as though your stupid for even thinking that
2007-02-27 14:01:02 · answer #10 · answered by justbeautiful4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋