For all you long time 25 yrs more married christian couples?

Question

I just found out something about my husband had i know about it before i would have never married him let alone have his kids..biblically i dont think i can get a divorce imean i've signed the papers and all that jazz...spritually whats a girl to do. I don't think counseling would help at all...im coming to the realization that i have to just trust God with my spouse. any help out there feel free to e-mail me...my gut is telling me if thsi issue dosent get under control it will tear us apart. plus side will be that it wont be my fault ...pls help!

Answer 1

For better or for worse, in the sight of God, right? Hang in there, sister.

Answer 2

Ok. I haven't got to 25 yet but am well on the way there, 8 years to go, I plan to get way past that too, any way there is hope in every situation, with God every Marriage can be saved, you just have to want to save it.when you say it won't be your fault this could be a problem for you, if, you do not accept ownership of any faults you may make it hard for yourself that way, you have to remember, that marriage is a give and a take that includes faults, we all have them(faults) yes even you do, now this I'm not saying to get your back up or to down you, but, really, you have to accept that you although you are putting up with him, you also, have some traits, and faults, that he puts up with too. Wether you like to admit it or not sweetie, you are not excluded when it comes to imperfection, as much as you might like to think otherwise you do have faults too! and there might even be some there that your hubby has to deal with from you, be assured, maybe, if you consider this, you may find a way to keep it from tearing you appart,unlike some of your other answerers I do not advise divorce because I know that God hates a Divorcing(Malichi2:16) and since you made a commitment to stay together, then that is what you should do, God wants this, and, of course he will help you to achieve this, he gives much advice to us, in his Word the Bible, if you want some scriptures to look into feel free to email me. I don't know what your situation is, but I will be more than happy to help. May God's blessing be upon you!

Answer 3

I can"t give an answer to specifics,since I don"t know what they are.I would say to You that a demon is involved ,He will take
any area He can..One thing don"t allow Hate to build up in you,It will interfere with your Prayers.Take God"s Word and every time you are reminded of Problem,speak God"s Word,You can do this while You are alone.These Children are Yours too,They need you now more than ever.There are others who are having same problem,Don"t cut your self away from other Believers,

Answer 4

First,don't bring religion into your relationship if it's not already been a HUGE part of it before. It'll only screw things up.

Second? ...Chill out. He can't have done something that bad. Is it porn? A man has a right to pleasure himself,as much as you do. Did he hurt one of the kids or touch one of them? In that case,it's time everyone has a very long talk.

Families can get through everything. Instead of worrying about your spirituality,concentrate on your family.

Answer 5

What did he do? If it was so bad that you think you wouldn't have married him to begin with if you had known about it then why stay married to him now. Biblically I don't know how to answer your question of whether to get a divorce or not without knowing what he did because there are certain things (such as adultery) that are specifically mentioned as grounds for divorce.

Answer 6

every marriage has its ups and downs. you have to go into it eyes wide open, accepting all that he is, and he accepting all that you are. It was not cool that he did not disclose whatever it was before you married. My husband also disclosed a few things to me as well, but I felt more compassion for him as a result. We had a very rocky time, so I'm not sure that I'm giving you a good example, but a marriage isn't about just love. It's about doing what you said you would do. If your intentions are not with your words, don't say the words.

Answer 7

THE Bible does not say that divorce is a sin It says God hates It because it causes his people pain,You should contact Your Pastor for counseling,and He can council you or refer you to A Christian Counsler that could helpYou.God Bless You and Your Marriage

Answer 8

Well, if he is addicted to pornography, what can you really do? It`s all over the media and it`s now completely acceptable to society. Look at Anna Nicole Smith? She was really seductive. She has the media`s complete attention now, even in death. She was really unfaithful to her partners and look at all the issues happening with her poor little girl! It does not pay to give into this sexually seductive society that we live in. Everybody is suffering!! Families are suffering!!Our men think it`s acceptable to look and act on these sexual impulses!!

Answer 9

geeze, I wonder what the hell could be found out 25 years after I would assume, loving and healthy marrige, with kids and such, that would have that sort of effect.

it sounds to me like it already has torn you apart. or torn you away anyway.

I can't think of much at all that would cause such disgust for someone I loved enough to marry and have kids with.

Answer 10

i think it says in corinthians that if your partner stops becoming a believer and non-christian then you can get a divorce. read corinthians for what you can do in marriage.