Ok firstly thank you to anyone who answered a previous question of mine with regards to meeting this guy.
Righty, lil recap, we were kind of hooked up by a mutual friend and never got to meet before he was called out to Iraq (in army), but talked, wrote, saw pics of each other etc and got on really well.
Went to meet him yesterday and was like 'oh ok' now that sounds bad, he was soooo sweet and we spent whole day and night together, no awkward silences, good laugh etc but i can get over this niggling feeling that he isnt what i built him up to be in my mind. I do like him though and when i left he was trying to arrange another meeting (he stays in yorkshire im in glasgow) but i couldnt commit to a date?? So should i tell him what im thinking or give it a chance as its all kind of new and just put it down to me being awkward?
I am attracted to him and had fun, just not sure what it is?
2007-02-27 13:33:45 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, thats great you are trying out new people. I mean you should be really open with him, but still keep some stuff aside. You should deffinatly give him another try. you may grow to like him more and more each time you're with him. If you keep on going out and become steady you should tell him what you were thinking the first time you went out with him. You two sound like a great couple. The dates i've been on there has been alot of awkward silences, so thats great you people have so much to talk about. You never want a quiet date. You want to learn more. Give him another try.
2007-02-27 13:42:36 · answer #1 · answered by cookiemunster92028 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Lisa
You must do as you feel on this one but I guess you already know that something is not 100%
It is also very difficult to have a long distance relationship
Personally I think you should keep it friendly & fun & not try to rush into any great commitment
Get out & have some fun closer to home & with someone that is going to be around when you need him
take care
2007-02-28 05:00:35 · answer #2 · answered by healer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't lead him on be honest with him, state that for now you just see yourselves as good friends but that may change either way on either side, don't drive him away for the sake of first date nerves but on the other hand it proves you are a sensible girl who knows her mind and is therefore probably worth waiting for. Good Luck hope all goes as you wish
2007-02-27 23:47:36 · answer #3 · answered by decrepid1958 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give it another go... bettter to regret something u have done rather than something u haven't and all that... just dont lead him on too much if u still dont have them "feelings"... sounds like u could be good friends either way by the sounds of it...
2007-02-27 21:48:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Glaswegian Do not rush, you are just at the beginning. Things need some time. He may be the best chance you will ever have. Do not make up your mind so quickly. Good Luck
2007-02-27 21:37:53 · answer #5 · answered by bigjohn B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I doesn't sound like you have spent enough time with him to make that determination.
But you need to remember that our definition of the "ideal" or how we want someone to be changes daily. It's important to eliminate expectation and just enjoy the reality. Your relationships with him and others will be better for it. . promise.
2007-02-27 21:38:03 · answer #6 · answered by Matticus Kole 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think you will find in a lot of relationships people end up with partners who are little like the person they thought they would end up with, if you get my drift.
firstly, forget what you thought about him.
you met a guy, you had a great time, you got on well, you are attracted to him.
cant see a problem myself.
2007-02-27 21:50:19 · answer #7 · answered by safcian 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you're attracted to him then what did you not expect of him,if you think you two could have a good relationship,why not give him a chance.Also,the way it sounds you two hit it off,so I think it would not hurt to try for a second date.
2007-02-27 21:42:52 · answer #8 · answered by TH 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him a chance **** isn't easy over seas the **** that happens isn't a joke by far and i think everything will be ok
2007-02-27 21:57:07 · answer #9 · answered by edward b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
probably first date nerves, but it could be that there just isnt any chemistry! dont lead him to believe you are more interested than you are but see him again and see what happens
2007-02-27 21:37:44 · answer #10 · answered by sydneygal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋