I'm a guy (18) that needs advice from guys that know what they're tlking about. So theres this girl that I think is cute (not amazingly gorgeuos, but shes allright). he definately knows that I might have a thing for her, but I never talked to her before. The only way i've really talked to her, is by the way I look at her (you know what I mean). She has a friend who I talk to sometimes. Should I ask her friend to help me get this girl, but without telling the girl I want that im going to her friend for help. Or do women have some sort of pact they have together, where she's gonna go and tell her friend everything. Can I trust her. and i know your gonna say do it yourself, but i cant for certain reasons. just answer the Q please
2007-02-27 13:25:28 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
on a scale of 1-10, my friendship with her friend is like a 4-5.
2007-02-27 13:31:06 · update #1
Also, the girl is in a relationship but i dont think shes happy. plus i can kick the guys ***.
2007-02-27 13:32:41 · update #2
If they're really really close, her friend will probably tell her. I know if something like that would happen to me and my friend, I would have to tell my friend about it or I would explode. if they're just okay friends and not like BFFs, then I'd say there's less of a chance... but friends don't like when friends keep something from them, even if it would turn out to be a good thing..
2007-02-27 13:30:31 · answer #1 · answered by F.J. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If her and the girl are good friends then she definitely will tell her EVERYTHING but it doesn't hurt to try. If you really like this gurl then do what it takes to woo her and get her. but be careful this "friend" might start falling for you (if not already) then youll really have a problem. Best thing is to just confront the girl you like. The worst that could is that she'd say no and then you never had a chance with her anyway. I doubt that though. Show her you care for her as more than just a friend. Girls like to be liked it builds up their confidence and u never know it could end up in your favor! Go for it! Be all you can be... You might want to stop the staring though. Lol.
2007-02-27 21:34:51 · answer #2 · answered by ♥PiNk RoCkS♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, something you should know about girls: They tell their friends EVERYTHING. Her friend is probably gonna tell the girl you are basically in love with her as soon as you're out of earshot. So I know it's hard, but be a man and just TALK TO HER. Go up to her and initiate a conversation. Take it step by step. If you're really, really uncomfortable with it, just go up to her and with a friendly smile, ask her if she has the time. And go from there. I don't see why you wouldn't be able to talk to her yourself, unless you are mute =) Remember, start slow. Get her attention, but don't let her know you are interested.
Yeah I know it's complicated, girls are a lot more complicated than guys in my opinion. Well, I hope that helped some and good luck!
2007-02-27 21:36:56 · answer #3 · answered by fiyreandiyce 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is what you do - get close to the girl AND her best friend. Give hints that you're definitely interested in the girl - her best friend will ask you and tell her the truth. Treat her best friend as a FRIEND (cuz when guys do this, they tend to forget about the girl and go for her friend) - have you seen "hitch"? He said that when trying to impress the girl, the most important thing to do is impress her best friend - not flirt with her friend - impress her. Show her what a cool guy you are - that you are genuine, sincere with a great personality. Once you've passsed that approval from her best friend - you've got a greater chance of getting her. If a girl's friend hates you, you have no chance - so go get 'em! GOOD LUCK!
2007-02-27 21:30:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should tell her friend, she might not be too close to her and tell someone or she could tell her some bad stuff about you if she disapproves of you..get to know her yourself, the relationships that last are the ones in which the couple started out as best friends. Don't be shy, confidence always wins. Good luck!
2007-02-27 21:34:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If these two girls are good friends she will definently tell her you are interested in her, however, this isn't necessarily a bad thing, because if the cute girl starts to talk to you, you will know that she is interested as well. Which is really what you're trying to figure out.
2007-02-27 21:31:07 · answer #6 · answered by pepsi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to handle the situation yourself man. That shows confidence, and confidence is sexy. Especially to women. Just start talking to her, say, " Hey, how are you" "what's goin on?" real simple stuff. Just be yourself, if you can't crack a joke right off the bat then that's fine.
Sooner or later you're going to have to make the first move. Ask her to hang out. but not to soon, you wanna have enought to talk about before then.
Anyways, good luck. Remember confidence, and simpleness.
2007-02-27 21:35:21 · answer #7 · answered by tenacious_d2008 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no specific pact that I'm aware of, but some girls can be blabber mouths. It's 50/50.
2007-02-27 21:30:06 · answer #8 · answered by Revelation S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, us girls travel in packs and we have pacts..one of them is Spill, we always tell our best friends the scoop and it sortof spreads...now some girls dont do this but, by now most girls your age are more mature than that..dotn worry...Good Luck
2007-02-27 21:29:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am 17 years old and almost in the same situation but i am trying to get my friend to talk to the guy for me -- it is good that you trust her friend, but if you dont want her to know tell the friend to not tell her, she doesnt have to know -- i understand that it might make you feel bad, but if you absolutely cant tell her, then it isnt that bad -- if the friend cares at all, she wont tell
2007-02-27 21:30:37 · answer #10 · answered by Modern-day Ask Abby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋