social and nervous issues?

Question

Does any one have any experience or knowledge of the way that i am feeling....
on many occasions i become nervous because i feel as though i must be the best (like going to work or playing an instrument in front of others)....sometimes my nerves become so out of control that i become dizzy....also i find myself unwanting to spend time with many people at one time....i usually feel uncomfortable and try to find a way to get out of it....like going to a public place, i put off time until i have to be there

some one have any words of advice

Answer 1

Social Phobia, it is a real disorder. See a doctor and get medication and counseling, it helps.

Answer 2

As a healthcare provider I can tell you that we have several medications for social anxiety that work very well. These medications are largely antidepressants. Seek help. It can make your life so much more enjoyable. Life is hard enough. You don't have to suffer from a part of life that many others find a reward. When I first started on an antidepressant and it started to take effect, I remember thinking how wonderful life was...and that this was what others felt as normal life....and the things that I avoided (the same things you listed) were now things that I enjoyed. Social anxiety can steal so much joy from your life on a personal and professional level.

Answer 3

I know how you feel. I don't even like to go through check out lines or order at a restaurant because I'm afraid I'll say something wrong or stupid. I just try and remember that since I don't really notice or care if someone messes up then they won't notice if I do. Try and find some people that you feel comfortable with and hang out with them. Well, I wish you the best :)

Answer 4

I do. I had social phobia until I went on Paroxetine (Paxil). First off, you have to discover what it is you are afraid of. You feel as though you must be the best. To counteract the of failure, we must change our perceptions. Key: Realizing that failure itself is an unavoidable fact of life. Each and every one of us has stumbled at some time or other. But that doens't make us failures. Even a long string of setbacks or mistakes doesn't qualify us for this sweeping, negative label. The scripts of our lives are filled with failures and unhappy scenes as well as successful and joyful ones. Helpful: Replay and savor the positive scenes. Don't dwell on negative scenes. Review negative scenes only long enough to learn from them--and then move on. People who view themselves as failures or chronic worriers are simply stuck in their negative scenes. They can't put the script down and move on to another page, so to speak. A vicious cycle ensues, as the belief that they are failures and the constant fear of failing again discourage them from trying new experiences or perservering at tasts that can lead to more positive results. (Like asking someone out on a date). That holds true for their health, their careers and their relationships.

Here are some steps you can take to overcome this fear if failure:

Remind yourself that everyone makes errors.
Don't sweat little things. Everything is little. If you can't flee, go with the flow.
Almost every problem has a lighter side.

Take the focus of fear and worry off yourself.

Don't wring your hands over the things you can't control

When self-help fails you may want to consider cognitive behavioral therapy. If anxiety occurs on a daily basis you might want to look into fluoxetine (Prozac) or another Selective seratonin inhibitor (SSRI).

Answer 5

You have social anxiety disorder and is treatable and curable. There are meds for this that really work, You will need to work on your self confidence, since this disorder erodes that. But once you start feeling better you can work on it. My son went to the Air Force to build up his self confidence and he is OK now. Go to a doc and get on the right meds

Answer 6

hiya, i think of ur rigidity comes from rigidity. U rigidity for perfection. do exactly issues to the better of ur potential. no one's appropriate :) Take working example, enjoying an tool, u could desire to play for the affection of it. yet while ur stressing plenty, there is not any way u could desire to be taking area in it. you may desire to take a injury & cut back being so under pressure. Its additionally fairly undesirable. it could make u sick. blend around with human beings u sense comfortable with. possibly capture a action picture or carry close out with ur better half and young little ones. Take care & stay chuffed! :) God Bless!

Answer 7

Consider being evaluated for social anxiety disorder. You may also have a dose of "perfectionism" as well that needs to be worked on in therapy/counseling.

Please go do this soon or risk the probability of continuing to be miserable.

Answer 8

i suffer from the same thing sometimes, it helps to be outgoing and show your skill. Even if people ask why i'm good at drawing i just say its my natural talent and can't help it. relax and take a deep breath.

Answer 9

i have the same problem and what has helped me throughout the years is simply keeping to myself