The thing is, he already has a woman, but he wants to have sex with me. He says he likes me a lot, but he's not in love with me. I haven't slept with him(which is what he wants); but i have let him fondle me. Am I really stupid by trying to hold out to see if he'll fall for me or what?
2007-02-27 12:58:50 · 19 answers · asked by venus 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Stupid? No...just too close to the forest to see the trees. Girl...he's using you, and he's darn near come out and said that. I know it's hard to accept something like that, and if you're really in love with him...you'll find an excuse NOT to let go, but I'm saying this as a friend...(my sister is in this situation too)...you have got to step back and get some focus. The only one who will end up hurt in this, is you. If you sleep with him, you'll only fool yourself into thinking he must care, at least a little. He doesn't.
No matter how nice he is to you...how much he jokes with you or compliments you...he would not leave you hanging like this, KNOWING your heart is in this...if he gave a dam. God know's I feel for you! But he will keep you close because you fill some void that his girlfriend doesn't. You feed his ego. You make him feel attractive. What does he do for you, besides being nice when he wants you...and being standoffish when you're an inconvenience to him? If you wait and hope and dream, you will only be hurt. Center yourself and walk away from this.
2007-02-27 13:05:10 · answer #1 · answered by Lisa E 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Paula - I'll be a sensitive as I know how to be..., but no matter what it may come across as sounding insensitive.
Sweety - this guy obviously cant be trusted. He has a woman, wants you for fun. Suppose you got your wish. You could never be sure he let "her" go and just lying to you. Odds are he's not telling his woman about his desires for a sexual tryst with you.
And there is no way he would tell you if he was having desires for someone else while with you. This guy is a selfish creep, who's only desire is for #1 (himself).
He's a teen-ager in a man's body - and you're going to have to be the voice of reason, the grown up and make up YOUR mind to tell him to back off. Tell him exactly what he is and don't speak to him other than what you have to in the "WORK" area only.
Lastly - romance at work in most cases ends at some point and when it does, hard feelings consistently interfere with one's ability to focus on work. This is another reason to avoid this man. The cheating signs are a clear warning - and you know this already or you wouldnt be asking for opinions. You know its bad - pay attention to those warning bells going off in your head.
2007-02-27 21:12:19 · answer #2 · answered by Victor ious 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are being used, just walk away, you deserve better.
To this man your just another piece of meat to be used and abused and tossed to one side when he's finished with you.
You don't love him your infatuated with him, which mustn't be confused for love.
You just haven't found the right man that's all because when you do you will know what true love is and you won't settle for second best which is what you are doing right now.
And what happens when people find out about you two, because they will and when they do you will be the bad one not him. You will be the relationship wrecker.
It's obvious that your self esteem is low at the moment, step back take deep breaths and tell this man to go and take a leap and a jump off of the nearest cliff.
Believe me I know what he's up to because I too am a man although I have more respect for people than this man does.
REMEMBER YOU DESERVE BETTER GAL, KEEP TELLING YOURSELF THAT.
All the best,
BEANS.
2007-02-27 21:21:19 · answer #3 · answered by BEANS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are I am afraid, but no worries, we all act silly for guy's sometimes. he is using you as he knows you like him and is basically using you for sex. He is having his cake and eating and you and his woman are the only two that will end up hurt out of all this. Stay away from him, make it clear you do not want him and no matter what, stay strong! Also, steer clear of him at any function for work where booze is involved!!! x
2007-02-28 06:51:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
HE WANTS ONLY SEX, is that loud enough for you?
he wants his cake ,and eat it to ,he wants to stay married ,not because he's in love with his wife ,because if he loved her ,the thought of sleeping with you ,would never been brought to discussion .
stupid is not the word ,I'm looking for ,a little slutty for letting him fondle you .
you are a booty call ,wake up and respect yourself a little .
concentrate on working ,and quit trying to find your dream man .
you not going to find in him ,hes a PIG.
2007-02-27 21:08:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You've answered your question.He does not love you,he already has another woman.He only loves the stuff between your legs. To him think you are a bottle of coca-cola,something to quench his thirst then discard the bottle. Don't prove him right. You are not a consolation price or a sex toy.
2007-02-27 21:23:49 · answer #6 · answered by Sunshine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your a booty call.
He wants easy sex, then home to his women keeping it free and easy.
You better keep away from that man, you gonna get a reputation as a skank and if his women finds out shes gonna be up in your face, so you better back donw.
Thats the american answer.
2007-02-27 21:03:40 · answer #7 · answered by chris s 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He already told you that he wants to use you for sex- at least he's honest about being a jerk. Hold out for a man who truly cares about you- he never will. Besides, he's a lying cheat and you can do better.
2007-02-27 21:06:22 · answer #8 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
no STOP this is an emergency if u keep having sex with him the other lady will get u or will find out and be FURIOUS the man wants pleasure
2007-02-27 21:02:59 · answer #9 · answered by christina 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Don't hold out, especially if he is your supervisor, this is called fraternisation, and it's wrong. Don't let this become a pattern. End it immediately and threaten to tell his woman.
2007-02-27 21:01:59 · answer #10 · answered by paulblackman 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋