I've been dating my girlfriend for about 2 years and I love her and she loves me but all the time I question whether I want to be with her because we argue all the time and say how things are going to change but never change. She's beautiful and smart and honestly like my bestfriend but I just dont know if we are going to work out down the road. I want to get out and see what else is out there but then again I'm not sure if I'm losing a good thing. I am young and she already talks about moving in with eachother and thats cool and all but sometimes I want to just be single and enjoy my young life. I know if we break up I am going to be hurt and I know she is too and I dont think we will be friends because it will be too hard. Help please!!!
2007-02-27 12:52:29 · 4 answers · asked by maruc h 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Break up- you're not committed to her and you argue all the time- that doesn't sound like such a good thing.
2007-02-27 12:56:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound very conflicted!
Well first you two should sit down and talk about where you two see your selves down the road in a few years. Does she want to see what else is out there too? Also WHY do you two argue so much maybe you are not compromising on issues?
See where you both stand on issues. If you two disagree with a lot of important things then its best that you not be together.
Moving in is NOT a good idea right now. You two might end up arguing even more than you already do. Then you two wont be able to stand one another.
Pain is a part of relationships.
After you two talk then both of you should have a better idea on what the next step should be, staying together or breaking up.....
GL!
2007-02-27 13:03:45 · answer #2 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, the same this is happening to me with my boyfriend. If you really love her, but at the same time you want to know what else is out there just so you know she's the one, try to explain it in a way that will make her understand that you just want to make sure it's right. Suggesting an open relationship might work, too, where you both will be together but if the opportunity for a new relationship came up, the other person would have to be okay with it.
Good luck!
2007-02-27 12:57:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well from what i have read it seems you are not ready for a commitment which is okay it takes time for anyone to be committed to someone. If you might feel like she might not be the one i bit you hate having arguments for something small. Your girlfriend and u should sit down one day and tell her how your feeling about her right now. If she really loves you she will listen and maybe both can come up with a solution to your problem. hope this can help you and good luck!!!
2007-02-27 13:08:11 · answer #4 · answered by sakura0158 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
hope that the argument doesn't involve physical damages.
i should tell u that arguing is love. You argue because you love. And please note that once you argue, you should solve the problem and haven't u ever realize that it makes you both closer. It makes you know each other better.
Say that it is destined to happen.(think,no one said u can't enjoy ur youth days but this is about ur upcoming emotional situation). Don't regret what you already have. Just don't let go.
Well that is what happen in your life and do feel glad to argue and appreciate the debates ,k..and think the positive side of the quarreling.
Don't force to accept, enjoy to appreciate.
2007-02-27 13:11:29 · answer #5 · answered by middle of mind 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you need to discuss your feelings with her...disagreements are part of any relationship...if you have having so many doubts about this relationship maybe it would be best if you two parted for a while....just to see where you stand, I was always told, "If you love them let them go, if it's meant to be they will come back!!" Maybe that is not the best advice for everyone but I will say this, your heart never lies...Follow what you feel in your heart...GOOD LUCK!!
2007-02-27 12:58:34 · answer #6 · answered by Floridapurrfection 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you want to get out ,just try to think it over before you say it's over. 100% sure that she's going to be hurt. please be nice. i'm in a stage of deep depression because my ex betrayed me, so please don't do that to your girlfriend. gud luck!
2007-02-27 13:35:54 · answer #7 · answered by monethcm 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋