One of my best friends is maybe lesbian? I`m scared of her now?!?

Question

Cuz I think she likes ME, and I`m not lesbian. And she hasn't told me cuz she knows it would freak me out. I don't know how 2 deal with this, she's even trying to get me jelous, AS IF!, I can't look at her the same way now and she scares me, I don't want her jumping up on me!. What can I do??!.

oxox, thanks!!!.

The problem is she dosen't want to admit it cuz she knows Iwon't talk to her the same again.

I`m sorry I didn`t explain myself clearly, what really freaks me out is that she gets too close or looks at my lips a lot as if dying to kiss me!!, and she really makes me get fed up cuz she like gets jelous a LOT and dosen`t want me to hang out with anyone else but her. Plus she gets TOO close.

oh and I know it`s me cuz she told me once she wondered if she was and was certain that it was because of me..!! ew..

Answer 1

Ok first off I've been in this type of problem MORE THEN ONCE. First off you just need to get over yourself and stop thinking that everything and everyone IS IN LOVE WITH YOU and WANTS YOU. Another thing if she is or isn't a lesbian and y'all are best friends like you say this shouldn't bother you what so ever. See I'm a lesbian and I've been through more best friends anyone has ever been through. For one I've never in all my years of being a lesbian have I fallen or even thought my best friend was hot or that I wanted to "Jump on them". Once again I shall say NOT everyone wants you or needs or even LOVES YOU. The main thing you need to do is sit down and talk to her before assuming stuff that may or may not be true. Now what you need to tell her is "Okay we need to talk. Don't be mad but I've been getting vibes that you may like girls is this true are not if it is true I will still be your best friend no matter what." and if it's true just flat out tell her in the nicest way that your not like that and you just want to be friends.

Answer 2

I am a lesbian. And I think I can speak for all lesbians when I say that we don't want every girl we see. We are just as picky about who we like as any person of a different orientation. Also...you shouldn't just asume that your friend is a lesbian...what if i turns out that she's not...wont that make you feel bad. Lesbians are nothing to be afraid of. We are people too. What would you do if it was one of your guy friends that liked you but you didn't like him back? It's the same thing. And for all you know she is just jealous because you are her friend, and maybe she likes to spend time with you, so when you hang out with other people it hurts her feelings...especially if she doesn't have a lot of other friends. Another thing is that if you are scared to be around her because you "think" she is gay she probably sences that you are treating her differently...that could be another reason that she is getting jealous...she doesn't want to lose your friendship. If you still think she is a lesbian, and you think that she likes you...you need to talk to her. You don't have to straight up ask her if she is...just let her know that you've noticed that she has been acting different/weird towards you, and that you feel like she invades you personal space sometimes. Let her explain herself. You may be suprised at what her reasons are. If it turns out that you were right. Don't stop being her friend...just let her know that you aren't interested in her...that you are not gay. And be sure not to tell anyone....it's her business to share. It is hard to be a gay teen, and supportive friends are a must.

Answer 3

If she hasn't told you she likes you, why do you automatically assume she does? Lesbians don't like ALL girls! The world does not revolve around you. If you have a friend who's a guy, it doesn't mean you like HIM just because you like guys in general. This is the same. It's just your mind thats playing tricks on you. Now every simple friendly sign of affection such as a hug will seem like she's making a move on you, when its really not that way.

How do you KNOW that she doesn't want to admit it!? It might SEEM that way, but it's really not! I could say that about anyone! I could say George Bush wants to give me $89273 right now but doesn't want to do it because people won't look at him the same. It can make sense technically, but really, it wouldn't be true.




Also, most importantly, PLEASE remember that you can't read minds. What you're doing is you're speaking for her. You DONT know what she thinks.

Until you do,

Stop freaking out and
never assume.

I hope you can get over this and be a good friend. Best of Luck! :)

Answer 4

Okay, I've been on the same boat as you. I know exactly how you feel. I've had a friend confide in me that she was a lesbian. I was uneasy at first. Most of the time, she'd stand really close to me and make me feel uncomfortable, and many other things. I confronted her, kindly, about those things. She wasn't angry at me for telling her.

So if you feel highly uncomfy about her, just tell her how you feel.

Are you the only person who suspects this? You're not 100% completely sure that she's lesbian though, so don't jump to conclusions. She might not even be, so go on being friends with her!

Answer 5

First of all, you "think" she's a lesbian? She's one of your best friends, maybe you should know for sure to start out with. Second, is she really doing anything differently than before or is it all in your head? And third, why do you think she wants you? You are a bit conceited sweetie. Ask her if she is gay and talk about it. She is your friend, or at least was, you owe it to her and yourself to be sure. If she expresses interest in you say thanks, but I am not interested, but I still want to be friends. If she persists, then tell her you feel awkward and either she stops or you can't be friends. You need to do a bit more work on this before you jump the gun.

Answer 6

I Think Maybe You Should Be There For Her Because Other People Probably Wouldnt And She Would Need To Be Accepted Some How.....Hope It Helps I Never Met A Lesbian.

Answer 7

First, CHILL THE **** OUT! Calm down and take a deep breath.

Second, best thing to do would be to forget you think this and make it clear to her that you're not that way and you have no interest in being that way.

Third if you want the friendship to last explain you would like to keep your friendship but not become romantically involved

Fourth if you're so homophobic you can't handle those then I'm sorry to say you're about to lose your friend, which when you get older you'll probably regret.

Answer 8

Well Hon, there is no reason to be scared of her. Its not like she's going to kill ya and eat ya., and homosexuality doesn't rub off on ya by hanging out with them.

Look, your friend knows your not a lesbian, bi-sexual, or probably even curious about it. You have just gotten freaked out because you think...and I stress "Think" that she "might" be lesbian in nature.

Seriously, do you think that all lesbians would hump anything and everything, just because they are lesbian? She's not going to try to jump your bones, so settle down and back away from the rocky road.....

Answer 9

You know, like I've read everyone else say, lesbians are people too. And also if she is does NOT mean she likes you. People can like a gender without liking everyone in it.

If she said she is because of you you need to sit down and have a LONG talk about it with her. Do not start hating on the gay lifestyle just because you choose not to live it. Many people choose not to live it but are RESPECTFUL of it. If you can't be respectful of it I feel sorry for you.

Answer 10

I've never known a lesbian to jump on another girl. I know it must be strange but she's still the same person and if she is a true friend then you should be there for her during this time because she may not have anyone else to turn to.