Can you help me?

Question

I have moved to Menlo park for studies and right now i have no friend in the new neighbourhood and it makes me feel extreemely loonley. Badly, i can not make any firends in the college, because i have never had a change to hang out with the students, after the class every one dissappears in less than a minute.
There are lots of beautiful girls that i wolud love to go out with but i feel i have lost the ability to socialize my self, or in the oder words iam not self-confident anymore, ever since i left my fmaily. Basically, Iam not crazy of having a girl friend, but what i just want to do is to talk to someone, preferebly girls, since they are better listeners than guys.
Every time i decide to say hi to a girl my heart starts beating like a 2 days old cat then i panic and lose control over my muscles and i can't talk any more,and I HATE IT. I think that I'll probably die if i ask a girl out for a date. What can i do?

Answer 1

You sound exactly like me, although I'm a girl, everything you've said describes me, except leaving my family. And there are guys that I like, but I don't know if they like me. Can't ask anybody out. That's weird, I am in college, moved to a new neighborhood, no friends (althought I would like to have some), lonely, try to ask guys out but can't say it, no self confidence, and I would like more social interaction. I'll just wait for the guys to come to me!

Answer 2

For Mosi & Melina,
This is your live, you can't wait around forever for people to approach you. You are young, don't waste your live being alone.
Start small, when you're in a restaurant, cafe or drive through or food stand, talk to the person who takes your order. Small talk, just to make you practise talking to strangers. Join a club. At college there are lots of clubs to join. Find one that you like. Maybe reading club, sports club, etc. Call your old friends, just to say hi. Get yourself talking. Use it or loose it, every skill needs practice, including social skill. Don't fear it, don't hate it, don't think it's difficult, just do it.
I'm a shy person too, at college I changed a bit talkative & get to know lots of friends (which now I'm glad I did back then). I didn't think it was something I have to do, I just did. Now, after college, I get in work and became shy again and find it difficult to talk to strangers. So I know how you feel guys, but I've learned how to break it.
When you approach someone, just say to yourself: "Here goes nothing." :) Really, it's not a big deal, just go up to them and say HI. The person you talk to would be thrill to have a new friend, and be grateful you make the first approach.
Good luck. I'm sure you could do it.