My son is 3.5. He has always treated me normal but about a week ago i changed my shirt in front of him (my bra was still on) and he stared and then told me i was pretty. He repeated it several times and then gave me a hug. It made me feel really awkward and i havent changed in front of him since. Is this normal? It just felt so funny to me, like he shouldnt have said that.
2007-02-27 12:26:17 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Yes it's normal. Kids are just curious about the human body. Why does mommy have bumps up top and daddy doesn't? Things like that. Maybe you should talk to him about it. Ask him why he looks at mommy when she's trying to get dressed. He might just be looking at your pretty bra and wondering why boys don't wear them! I used to think the same thing with my boy, but when I asked him about it, it was totally innocent. I think it makes us feel uncomfortable because we aren't used to having someone stare at us and we don't know what their little minds are thinking yet.
2007-02-27 12:34:35 · answer #1 · answered by impossiblemama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 3 and 1/2 he doesn't have sexual desires toward you. His reaction was perfectly normal. Since you had the issue with it and decided not to change in front of him, it seems you solved the problem. You as a mom have to expect the unexpected with kids. They grab where they shouldn't, the touch things they shouldn't, say things they shouldn't, but it's all innocent. If you make a big deal about it, then they will too. If you make it seem ordinary, they will soon forget it.
2007-02-27 20:40:09 · answer #2 · answered by Melanie A 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is fine. He is only 3 and a half. I have a 3 year old son too. Normal.
2007-02-27 21:10:55 · answer #3 · answered by Blondi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's completely normal. Kids this age love to express their feelings, particularly since this is the first time they are accurately able to identify them. If it makes you uncomfortable to change in front of him, then don't.
2007-02-27 20:32:15 · answer #4 · answered by Sit'nTeach'nNanny 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
you shouldnt feel awkward. that happened to me too! see i think kids at that age fing beauty in anything unique and differant. they will respond to things that they havent seen before like"wow thats so cool" havent your sons face when he's looking at something new to him? like trees, flowers,bugs? stuff we dont appreciate they do cause its all new. so when my son did this to me it was just cause he thought it was neat that mommy had something he didnt. dont make him feel like he's saying something bad. he'll get over it and find something else to focus on soon enough!!
2007-02-27 20:34:28 · answer #5 · answered by mylilangelcj 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my best friend just went though this with her son
now he is so into boobs its kinda funny he walking into a wall at the store because a women with really big boobs was standing there he wasn't watching where he was going
2007-02-27 22:53:34 · answer #6 · answered by debrasearch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its just curiosity, My daughter is the same way with my husband, They don't understand any better. She even does it to me when I am changing and going to the bathroom. I wouldn;t be concerned
2007-02-27 21:27:43 · answer #7 · answered by amanda13085 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Your son must have a personal crush on his mommy. My sister's daughter had a crush on her dad and she loved him. She eventually learned about his thing. (Exactly like your son learning about yours down there). He will get grossed out and realize that he shouldn't be looking at his mom's boobs. He'll know eventually that it's gross. Hope he doesn't look pics of women up on the internet, like my niece did about guys.
2007-02-27 20:59:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Hmm, sounds like a very nice complement to me :).
Cute too =p, sounds like nothing to worry about.
2007-02-27 20:37:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh no, Freud was right!?!?!?
2007-02-27 20:33:49 · answer #10 · answered by music junkie 4 · 3⤊ 2⤋