About a week ago I went out with a dude i only knoew for a week, i know stupid, but I enede up drinking and smoking, something I dont normally do. Well I got to the point where i couldnt hardle stand, I felt like i couldnt control what i was doing, but he took me to a hotel and we had sex. I keep telling him to stop, i didnt want to it hurt bad and i was screaming but he didnt stop. I could get him off of me because of the alcohol and smoking made me feel drousy and hardly awake. I was so close to blacking out for the night and did once or twice. when i woke up i cried and couldnt believe what happened. can i press charges? is this rape? please help
2007-02-27 12:19:21 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
thanks everyone, i did go to the hospital as soon as i got home. I jus wanted to know cus my ex says its not rape, but i know it is i've been to the police and everythang, thank you everyone i jus needed to know what happened was wrong and i wasnt the only one who thought so thanks again
2007-02-27 12:32:22 · update #1
Yes it IS rape! You didn't want to have sex with him, you told him that and you asked him to stop and he didn't. That would without doubt be classified as rape.
You can and should press charges, but keep in mind that he will probably deny it and it will be hard for you to prove that it happened. It's even worse when alcohol is involved. But for the sake of his possible future victims I think you still should go for it - that is if you feel strong enough to go through with it.
I'm so sorry this happened to you. I think you should seek counseling as soon as possible.
Good luck whatever you decide to do - and take care of yourself.
2007-02-27 12:31:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Rape is defined as forced sexual intercourse; force may involve psychological coercion (being "talked into it") as well as physical violence. This includes situations where the victim may be drunk, drugged, asleep, unconscious, or for any reason unable to say yes or no. It doesn't matter if a girl dresses sexy or a guy is really "bombed," sex without proper consent is RAPE. Period.
When you said STOP you means STOP. That is raped because even when you were drunk you still know what was going on and you did not like it and didn't want to do it, but he still forced you to do it. So that is RAPED. Nothing more to it.
2007-02-27 20:49:13 · answer #2 · answered by Tummy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES! this is rape. Anytime, under any circumstances you say NO! and he does not stop it is rape.....Was he over 18 yrs old? If so it is a serious offence for the guy even if he is under 18.. I would at least tell your parents and let them help you decide whether to press charges
2007-02-27 20:25:11 · answer #3 · answered by cathy s 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, honey...this IS rape! Rape happens when one person does NOT consent to sex...and you did NOT want the sex...and what you describe is this person taking advantage of you.
I would talk to a Special Victims Unit representative...they have wonderful female police officers who are understanding, comforting and WANT to help you. When you speak with one of these ladies, your statement will be treated with respect and with confidentiality. You probably will have to be examined, even though this occurred a week ago.
You need to take care of this. This man needs to be brought to task for this act. He sounds very abusive and probably could be a dangerously violent man. Take care of this NOW! My prayers are with you, dear.
2007-02-27 20:49:46 · answer #4 · answered by bjorktwin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes hon this is definetly rape as far as I'm concerned. He got you high so you could not fight back and took advantage of the situation. You cried and told him No he should have listened. Report this jackass to the police before he does this to someone else. Sorry this idiot hurt you.
2007-02-27 20:27:24 · answer #5 · answered by phylobri 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Definately, Date Rape and yes you can and should press charges. No means no, I would go to the police ASAP
2007-02-27 20:24:04 · answer #6 · answered by misty 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it does not matter if u where drinking if u said no means no and this is rape. but be careful because some people maybe very jude mental if u feel u was raped then u should make a report reguadless what people might say
2007-02-27 21:44:33 · answer #7 · answered by crystal w 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's 100% rape! Press charges! DO NOT BACK DOWN! Anyone who tries to persuade you otherwise, whether family or friend, does not have your best interests in mind.
2007-02-27 20:36:29 · answer #8 · answered by 1REWD1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes, that's rape. Hope that guy gets castrated. Sorry, I'm a little passionate about this stuff lol So glad you're okay. Congrats, and thanks, for going to the police. That probably took a lot of courage :)
2007-03-02 04:36:23 · answer #9 · answered by High On Life 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is definetly rape...how old are u? i think that if ur under 18 or somethin' its called stagatory rape... i think. Get a lawyer and press charges!!!
Good Luc Hun <3
2007-02-27 20:39:19 · answer #10 · answered by Maddilicious 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋