Well there has been alot that has been going on with me and my husband. Well we will be getting a divorce after the baby is born but I have just been real sad here lately. I know I dont want to be with him (there is so much he has done, wrecked my car and left didnt fix nothing, doing drugs again, and rubs his little g/f in my face) but here lately I just break down and cry. Its just hard to cope with all this and not knowing how he could do me so wrong. Is the all part of being pregnant (29 almost 30 weeks)? Or is it being pregnant and having to deal with his inconsistancies? Some good advice and encouraging words would really be helpful. Thanks everyone.
2007-02-27 12:17:28 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Men are such pigs! He obviously doesn't realize how lucky he could have been with you. How awful for you. Pregnancy is hard enough to deal with, but adding a moron husband just puts it over the top. You need a friend to talk to. You can't go thru this alone or you will end up miserable. But you know what? Good for you for dumping his as$ because you deserve better. Don't let anyone push you around like that. I don't know you, but it makes me proud that women can still stand up for themselves when men don't know how to treat them. Good for you!
You're almost done with your pregnancy, so a lot will be going on. You will feel overwhelmed with the responsibility, overjoyed with your new little one, and oversensitive with your love life (so don't think about taking him back if he comes back begging). Try to confide in a friend or join a mommies club in your area. It will really help out. If you have any relatives close by, maybe you can ask someone to come stay with you for a while to help out with the baby and to support you emotionally.
Hang in there and take care. And always remember that you deserve the best! The power you have to stand up for yourself makes you so much more beautiful. And never let anyone tell you otherwise! Congratulations!
2007-02-27 12:28:58 · answer #1 · answered by impossiblemama 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hi Courtney, Sorry to hear that what should be a happy time isn't going that way for you. You have every right to feel sad at the moment though try to look at the bright side of things to help cheer you up. Here are a few to start you off.
You are having a beautiful baby that will love you unconditionaly.
Once the baby arrives it's amazing how your husband won't seem to matter anymore, as long as you have your baby.
You are getting rid of a complete loser.
You will be an independent woman.
You don't have to deal with your soon to be exhusband everyday.
I'm a big fan of the saying "Everything happens for a reason" My mum found out my father had been cheating on her from nearly the start of their marriage after they had been married for almost 20 years. She hadn't worked since she had gotten married and my father froze our bank accounts so we had no access to money, I was still in high school and she couldn't get any benifits as my parents home was deemed to big an assest (exactly how you are supposed to eat your house is beyond me). My mum was devestated for quite some time but she kicked my father out got a job started dong things she wanted to do (my father was always a controlling b&*@%&?) and she is very very happy now and says it was the best thing that ever happened to her and she would never go back.
The only advice I can give you is to be strong surround yourself with good friends and family, know that you can acchieve anything you set your mind to and give your baby all the love you can give and with time the darkness will fad and you will be happy again. Take care I will be thinking of you and wishing you happiness.
2007-02-27 12:39:48 · answer #2 · answered by finabella9 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't blame you for feeling blue! I applaud you for dealing with it, since you seem to be handling your situation as best you can right now. So don't feel guilty or anything for crying - sometimes it can really help to cry - but just remember, it'll all get better soon: you won't be pregnant anymore, you can get a divorce (and hopefully find a new man soon that's actually worth you!), and best of all, you'll have your beautiful new baby.
For now, just stick close to friends and family you love and trust. I'm sure if you need a shoulder to cry on they'd be there for you.
2007-02-27 12:29:42 · answer #3 · answered by Blondie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hay you hang in there forget about that looser you have a beautiful baby on the way and it is possible to get sad all the time i did at the littlest thing but you sound like a nice person i reckon go to a friends house and have a chat tell them and get it all of your chest but you have to stop worrying its not good for the bub just think when you have this baby you will get into shape and you will be a great mum. good luck
2007-02-27 12:33:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to stop bothering u and your when your babies com tell her or he that his father is in jail and tell the police that he is doing a lot of drugs and that he broke your car down and did not fix it and maybe he will go to jail but if he does not then tell your baby that u and himm got divorce when he is like 8 or 7 or 6 or 9 if that doesent work then e-mail me my e-mail is on my page.
2007-02-27 12:26:57 · answer #5 · answered by Bubba 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move away from him. A freak like him is the last thing you need right now. I feel so bad for you- that's so much to deal with even when you're not pregnant.
Just leave him right now and do not look back ever again.
2007-02-27 14:31:41 · answer #6 · answered by jimbell 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you are doing the right thing for you and the baby. if hes on drugs neither of you need to be around him. being pregnant and having to deal with his sh!t makes it harder. surround yourself with good people who love you and just hang in there and take it one day at a time. draw strength from the life inside of you and continue to make good choices, everything will be fine :) good luck to you!
2007-02-27 12:21:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm almost always feeling blue and people tend to always tell me this:
Here's a little song I wrote.
You might want to sing it note for note...
In every life we have some troubles,
but when you worry you make it double.
So don't worry, be happy.
I bet it would've sounded better coming from someone you know and love, but hey I like to get someone to smile to.
2007-02-27 12:22:26 · answer #8 · answered by *Beautiful Zephyr* 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's natural to feel this way while pregnant,and thats without all the things that your dealing with..Maybe you should go and see a health care pro,so that you have someone to talk to about your situation...Goodluck,take care of yourself and that little bub..
2007-02-27 12:35:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
your going through alot right now! i'm really sorry and hope that you are staying healthy since you are pregnant. you dont need this guy in your life and it sounds like your handling that right. so i think that your hormones are just in overdrive cause of the pregnancy. you sound like your gonna be alright!! things will be better for you!! stay positive and bless you and your lil'one!!
2007-02-27 12:24:37 · answer #10 · answered by mylilangelcj 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋