teenage girls dumping boys?

Question

My 15 year old son got dumped, again, by another girl. He, I, and my wife, do not understand this. They use e-mail, or leave phone messages; "sorry, it's over. Have a nice day." No reason, no warning. Too bad if I hurt you... And don't call me, I will not be answering my phone. He is hurt, angry, each time. Each time the girls assure him they are not like the others. And each time; POOF, it is over. See ya!!

Why are teen age girls so cruel?

Answer 1

That's why being friends first is a good idea.

I'm 15 myself and I think it's terrible how some girls (and guys) treat their boyfriends/girlfriends. Using them to make their ex jealous, dumping them for no reason (or a very stupid one), etc. It's as if they don't care about anybody else but themselves.

Such as myself, there are plenty of girls around his age that aren't like that. He's bound to meet one someday.

Answer 2

In a time and age where children are growing up so quickly, there are immense pressures for adolescents to be in a romantic relationships. Just think about it. They see their celebrity 'role models' going through romantic partners every month and feel the want and need for a boyfriend or a girlfriend. Although many teenage girls (and boys) think they are emotionally ready for all the mental aspects of having a relationship, are not mature enough to handle such a close intimacy at this age. Many do not even know what to look for, and after they start 'going out' for a week, they find problems that they never anticipated and therefore have no clue how to deal with. The cruelty associated with dumping is just a way for the dumper to get over their own immaturity. I would advise your son to leave girl-hunting until later. He should make friends of both genders, do activities he enjoys, and concentrate in school. There is plenty of time for him to grow and mature and eventually he will find the girl who is right for him.

Answer 3

The boys can be just as cruel. Your son is still young and just starting this dating thing. I HAVE noticed that nowadays, the girls are more shallow and fickle about boys than they used to be. He's likely dating girls around his age, and a 15 year old girl has never been known for maturity in romance...especially if he keeps going for the same type of girl. Eventually, he'll start dating girls who have matured a little and who won't take a dating relationship so lightly. Breaking up over the phone or via email, just shows you how childish the girls are, that he's been choosing.

Answer 4

Email and SMS are the most indirect way a gal can break the bad news.

In the past where these technology are not available and gals are more chaste, its usually the guys that initiate the break up and would do it in a movie like manner. Eg, under the tree by the moon and the stars etc...

People nowadays do not like direct contact so much, even calling on a phone is a hassle.

Answer 5

I dont know, but something's gotten into them - they seem to think it's cool to change boyfriends every weekend! I find it insane to be okay with hurting people like that.

I feel bad for your son, and I definitely think that breaking by email or phone message is one of the worst ways to break up. Hopefully this is just another fad that will pass by quickly.

For now, all he can do is just hang in there and hopefully find a way to get over it quickly, because anyone so cruel obviously doesn't deserve him and is not worth dwelling on. :)

Answer 6

Okay I'm a teenage girl and I don't understand this myself. I mean this cannot be all there is to the story. There has to be SOMETHING to force these girls to do this to your son. Maybe they found someone hotter, maybe he is not up to their popularity status, maybe he's TOO lovey dovey, I don't really know, but there has to be something. Now as for your son maybe he should stop dating girls for a while, maybe he should toughen up a little bit, or maybe he shouldn't try to FALL IN LOVE with every girl he dates, because in that case he's begging to be hurt. But I can tell you that hey, we're teenage girls. What do you expect? I mean its not like they say "I hate you, you evil creeP' They just simply tell him its over and honestly if your son can't take a simple break-up line he's not ready for dating just yet. When you go into a teenage relationship, or any one for that matter, your heart should ready to take any dives, plunges, or uprising that may happen, so that when something happens you won't be in such a shock. And teenage girls aren't TRYING to be cruel, thats a genralization you're making there because we aren't all this way, but when I don't like i guy I figure why waste any time? I just cut to the chase to make it less harsh on both of us. Truth is your son should probably just toughen up a little bit, he'll be alright.

Answer 7

They are teen age girls .
Not all the teens are like that ,some do have compassion ,and sweetness,and honesty .
Perhaps these girls are in a group that does this .Or someone is telling them to do it .
Tell him to tell the new ones "sure I would love to be your friend "And leave it at that ,learn to be friends first .

As parents we must fight the urge to go to their parents and tell them what their precious darlings are doing ,but it would make it really bad for your son then .
Tell him to cool it for awhile ,and find a hobby .Go places like skating rink , bowling ,or arcades and meet girls not in his school .Good Luck . and don't give up.

Answer 8

Heh, the world is cruel, twisted and weird in its way, sorry, it sounds emo, but hey, it's true... But you know, teenage dating in middle school, as I see it, as a kid about his age myself, is just an experience, like a test drive, as I think of it, before anything real serious happens. Of course, this comes from the guy with no girlfriend ever, though. But he's in high school, right? He shouldn't really worry too much right about now. Sophmore and onward is where I think everything serious happens.

Answer 9

They are still young. A real lasting relationship reguires maturity. Every girl says she isn't like the rest to get the guy. Your son is probably doing nothing wrong, it's just that at that age girls can get bored quickly. They want to get a taste of all there is out there. Don't get too upset about it.

Answer 10

Some teen age girls have probables.I'm a 12 yrs old girl,but I'm not cruel.When your son goes out with a another girl make sere that shes per. for him and that they love each other OK.
Angel