would you ever consider doing this?

Question

providing a home for foster kids or adopting a child(would you want to adopt in your area,country or world wide)why or why not?

Answer 1

We have. And we do. But we are a foster home to an individual with developmental disabilities. This person is an adult, so adoption isn't really an option. But this person is a part of our family. They are involved with every holiday, with our families, and are welcome at any of our relatives' homes along with us. We enjoy doing this, and love being able to help an individual that might be in an institution if it weren't for us opening our doors to them.

We do it because we both (my husband and I) think that all people should get a fair chance to live within the community, no matter what their abilities. I think we would do something like this for a child if we could, but our schedules make that a little more difficult. Children need much more attention.

One of my best friends did it for children for many years. Her and her husband had numerous children live with them over the years, and they both loved it. They helped out some kids that had rather tough lives, and made some very important bonds along the way. They even helped change a life or two. To be able to make that kind of difference in another person's life is something very special. It takes a very special person to do something like that.

Answer 2

Being a foster parent is a tough job. Just when you get attached the childs dope head parent reclaims their "rights" as a parent. i don't think I'd have the cajones for that.

Adopting is another story. When my parents adopted my sister 49 years ago it was a simple, church based system where the child was usually placed with very good people. Now it seems to be a matter of who has the most money. The last time I checked it looked like it cost about $40,000 minimum to adopt a healthy white infant in the US. The waiting list is quite long too. People with lots of money have no trouble adopting because the birth parents can "choose" who they want to let adopt their child. just put the birth parent(s) up in a luxury apartment with the best medical care and they will choose you over the average hopeful every time. Adopting from other countries is still quite expensive (about $25,000 and up) but there are more risks.
As a third option you can adopt a special needs child. They are usually older, born addicted, have disabilities, etc. You can sometimes even adopt these children and receive a tax credit. But you better have a stay at home partner, lots of patience and the best medical plan available.

Answer 3

Yes I would but taking in a foster child can be emotional difficult as the child has to eventually leave.
Adoption would be my choice.
From people I know who have tried to adopt in the U.S. it seems the process can take so long that I would consider adopting a child from another country if I became impatient.

Answer 4

I would consider either, when I make more money. I struggle now with my own child, so right now it would not be fair for a foster/adopted child.

I anticipate having foster children for sure in the future. I love children and have a desire to help those that need it most. I do not intend to have any more children of my own, because I have this hangup of all my kids having the same dad.... foster kids need people who will work hard to help them. I want to be one of those people.

Answer 5

Well it is a hard job to do. It's not like having your own kids, that's for sure. It's harder because you really need to be there for that child and try to understand where he's coming from. There's a lot of pain involved with kids who feel they weren't wanted. As long as you have the time and patience to give the child I'd say why not. They really need to feel loved and not like they are just someone's paycheck.

I would consider adoption because I feel that they deserve a chance too. They didn't choose to be put up for adoption.

Answer 6

I would foster younger children like under 5 because I have worked in a group home with teenagers and it was really scary. I would adopt but I would prefer to adopt same race just so when they get older people won't be cruel, especially their peers.

Answer 7

I actually really want to become a foster parent, but my husband does not want to because he thinks he will become to attached to the children, and then they will be adopted or leave and he would want to adopt them all. We would both love to adopt, but we do not have the money right now. Maybe in a few years though.

Answer 8

I would, becasue I Love children. You need to keep in mind that older children tend to have issues as they have been around the foster carers houses etc.

Adoping is a great idea, and so is foster caring.

Talk to your local child servcies office and they can give you so much more info.

Answer 9

Deffinately. I would love to provide a home for foster kids, even if it was just for a little while until someone else got custody over them. I would do it because I would hope to make a positive impact on their life.

Answer 10

Its my dream to adopt a child one day. If you have the financial stability and a stable home enviroment and want to do it then look into adoption. I wish to give a child a great home and family someday.