I am 30 years old and my girlfriend is 29 years old. She loves me so much. I still have feelings for her but I know it isn't love nor lust. I only like her. We been together for at least 6. We started making love since like 2 years ago and I never left her. I don't plan to leave her ever. I knew if I left her, I wouldn't have anyone else to make love with, and she would be sad and will be filing for child support if she had a baby. Thank god she didn't have a baby. I hope I don't fall in love with her. I told her "I love you" lots of times and I know I didn't mean it. What do you think I should do???
2007-02-27 11:53:28 · 15 answers · asked by Xian C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Why are you wasting her time? If you dont love her it is ridiculous to be in a relationship with someone that long and just hope they don't get pregnant. Hopefully she is much more mature than you because for being 30 years old this is a very odd question. You would think by now you could be man enough to just tell someone you dont want to be with them. Hope you figure it out. but tell her so that she can be with someone who actually loves her and wants to marry her
2007-02-27 11:59:43 · answer #1 · answered by Juls 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
What is real love to you?
It's more than a feeling my friend. Love is sacrifice and selflessness.
If you think that what is making you stay is just the fear of Not having someone to have sex with then obviously you are only thinking of yourself and being selfish. And if that's how you think then you really never have loved her in the first place. Be honest with her...the more you prolong things the more it's goona get worse because of the lies which will hurt her and you as well.
Make sure when you enter into a relationship, let not lust get into the way...let real love which is the willingness to sacrifice and the willingness to be selfless surface.
Obviously you know there is a GOD whom you thanked for sparing you of a responsibility. Pray to God and He will teach you the ways of love. Find out...you'll see and you'll not be disapointed.
2007-02-28 03:16:55 · answer #2 · answered by Saint777 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your reasons for staying with her are really shallow. I mean, you're leading this poor girl on because you won't have your little sex partner and you might have to pay child support. That is just pure cruelty. She needs to know how you really feel about her. You're practically using her! That's so awful! She is in love with you, and the longer you go without telling her the harder she will fall when you finally break it off. I mean, she doesn't even have the slightest idea that you don't really love her. Break up with her, please. She obviously deserves better than you.
2007-02-27 20:05:21 · answer #3 · answered by x 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are wasting her time and yours...in the meantime you can find someone that will fill your heart with love and still make love to you...
She is not a toy...she is a person that has the right to know how you feel....both of you in this relationship...not just you....you are not being a nice man...at all.
2007-03-03 13:13:41 · answer #4 · answered by Ariana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although it may hurt the both of you at first, don't you both deserve to spend your life with someone you love? You are doing her a great disservice by wasting her time. Also, what is all this about not having anyone to make love with? Breaking up with someone doesn't doom you to a life of celibacy! Geez!!!
2007-02-27 20:03:03 · answer #5 · answered by 1teacher 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are leading her on she thinks you love her she is just a piece of *** to you even though you say it is not lust it is because you say you don't want to leave her because you won't have any one else to make love with that is lust you should end it before she gets hurt you are hurting her now by not loving her
2007-02-27 20:00:18 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you dont love her but you dont want to leave her. It sounds like she is good for you and you know this is true but havent embrased it yet. There's an old proverb: Don't marry someone you can live with, marry someone you can't live without. Consider this my friend.
2007-02-27 20:03:40 · answer #7 · answered by Joe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you and especially your girlfriend is in a bad situation. That's all i can say. What you are doing is playing with her heart and using her for an excuse.
2007-02-27 19:59:51 · answer #8 · answered by xboxturbo 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you're a dick. Break up with her. There are always fn prostitutes out there if sex is all you friggin' care about.
2007-02-27 20:37:33 · answer #9 · answered by britt g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you're just worried about the "making love" part, then just leave her, if you don't have feelings for her, just leave her. my gosh, you're just wasting your time and her time.
2007-02-28 15:22:37 · answer #10 · answered by Chelsea's Momi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋