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Our son is dating a girl who treats him badly. She picks fights with him constantly. She is very insecure and gets jealous when we go out for family dinners (she'll call every five minutes). She got upset with our son when we bought him a car (why this upset her none of us is sure). She gets upset with him constantly. She and her mother spend tons of money on him and they can't even fix the broken toilet in their home. She is in major debt and hasn't even graduated college (using student loan money to vacations), and is generally a bad influence for our son. She is his first serious girlfriend and is already talking about marrying her. Yikes! What can we say to him to convince him he is making a poor choice in partners?

2007-02-27 11:52:31 · 10 answers · asked by Bean Counter 2 in Family & Relationships Family

10 answers

Youcould try to point out all of the bad influences she has on him but that usually just pisses us kids off. There is this show on MTV called Parental Control where the parents interview lots of potential girlfriends for their son and the mother picks one and the father picks another. THen the son goes on a date withthe two girls and picks which girl out of the three (mothers choice, fathers choice, and his girlfriend) he wants to go out with. You might want to go on this show or reanact it at home somehow. Just show him better girls and try to show hom that there are better girls out ther.

Hope I helped!

2007-02-27 12:06:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2 1

No one wants to be told they made a bad choice, and that goes double for someone in their late teens/early twenties. If he is in fact in this age range, and this is his first serious girlfriend, he may just be happy that he finally found someone and will do whatever it takes to keep her.

The best thing to do in my opinion is to talk to him calmly without making any derogatory remarks about her or raising your voice. The more demanding you are to him, the more likely he will do the opposite. Ask him to put off getting married until one of them finishes college. Try to get him to go to an out of town or out of state school. Maybe all you can do is send him on a vacation for a few months - stay at a relative's house or do some student traveling around Europe. That could get him to see that there are other choices out there.

2007-02-27 12:06:32 · answer #2 · answered by Brian G 6 · 1 1

Ok, have an older brother that is goin through same. Tell your son your reasons for not liking his choice. Explain to him you are worried about his wellbeing, and ask him why he chose this girl. Remeber, the final decision is his. My nephew told my brother that he could not choose his parents, but he could choose he would marry. Major family tension, and yes my nephew did marry the girl in question. Just be the loving parents you are, and be there for him if he falls. Best of luck and loads of prayers your way.

2007-02-27 13:12:28 · answer #3 · answered by cookyaustinchic 3 · 1 1

Let your son work out his relationship problems himself. You can let him know she isn't exactly the type of person you hoped he would fall for and also let him know he can come to you for emotional support. Hand him a box of condoms and ask him if he knows how to use them. And then pray for him. Pray every day and every night. And then remember, if God has a reason to bring these two together, He will. But if you raised a man, please allow him to make his own mistakes. Don't give him a reason to blame you for his damaged relationships. Don't give him a reason to resent you. Just love him.

2007-02-27 12:46:49 · answer #4 · answered by truthseeker221 3 · 1 0

How old is your son? If this is his first serious relationship you or his father might suggest that he take a break from her to test the relationship. Date a few other girls to see what's out there. He might then see that her behavior is not normal and he can do better.

2007-02-27 12:49:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1 1

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2016-10-16 22:06:16 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0 0

Momma...leave the kid alone. Maybe Dad can turn the boy into a man? Either that or leave it alone. It's his life to lead, and to screw up.

2007-02-27 12:06:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

well try to tell him that the girl he picked is not the right choice there is better girls out there for him. he deserves better so find a way to tell him that he shouldnt be with that girl. thats all i know

2007-02-27 11:57:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1 1

go on the show on mtv called parental control!

2007-02-27 12:53:27 · answer #9 · answered by little_bit0716 1 · 0 1

work on it

2007-02-27 12:00:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

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