how to break up with a gf that might get sucidal or psyco?

Question

well we broke up, but how do i get her to move on

Answer 1

It's not your problem. Stop taking her calls.

Answer 2

I am wondering if you are using the terms "psycho" and "suicidal" in the appropriate ways. Is she seriously suicidal?

If your ex-girlfriend is seriously suicidal and you are really afraid that she may indeed harm herself, then you are responsible for getting her some legitimate help. You are NOT off the hook, NOT supposed to "hook her up" with another guy (a terrible idea!) and you are NOT to give her any Ritalin (the WORST idea ever!)

If she is mentally disturbed to the point of suicide, and you were not using the terms lightly, she needs medical/professional help, and you should, at the very LEAST contact her parents or your high school guidance counselors. How will you feel, if she should actually hurt herself because you are taking this all so very lightly?

I can guarantee you one thing: you won't be laughing it up and joking around about hooking her up with some other "dude" if she hurts herself and you know she was this ill.

Take some responsibility for someone that you thought you cared about once, even if you don't now. She is in need of someone's care now. Discuss it with an adult, and let her know that you are thinking of her. It may save her life, and your conscience.

Answer 3

Certainly a dilemma...definitely you would not want to ever ever give her any idea that you and her will get back together. She will beg and plead and threaten to hurt herself but like a kid crying for candy in the store, if you give in once you have just placed her on a variable ratio schedule, one of the most difficult to extinct. And you are wanting to extinct the behavior of "wanting to get back together." You must avoid rewarding her efforts in any way. Be assertive. Repeat your mantra to her: "No, we are not getting back together...No, we are not getting back together..." When she finally lets go and accepts your decision, then she will move on. But before she does, be ready for any trick in the book and stick to your decision no matter what. She wants you--like a kid wants candy--but you as the resolute "parent" must say "NO" ad infinitum. Good Luck! Next time be more careful who you get mixed up with!

Answer 4

You cant make her move on. You will have to ride it out. Call the police if she goes psyco at you dont let her get away with that.

Answer 5

You cant do nothing for her she needs to grow up its not the end of the world. Tell her the past is history tomorrow a mystery today's a gift that's why they call it the present and that she will find another guy that will make her happy.

Answer 6

That's always a tough one. I think you have to be "unavailable" to her- stay distant- but always, always stay nice! Don't give her a reason to think there is a chance- false hope never does anyone any good. Try to put yourself in her shoes. Think about how you would be feeling and what could help get you to get over it and on with your life. Good Luck!

Answer 7

There's nothing more you can do. You are no longer tied to her so she has got to move on on her own. I know you may feel bad but with time that will go away.

Answer 8

Just avoid all contact. Call her shrink and tell him she's suicidal. If she has no shrink try calling the suicide hotline for help.

Answer 9

haha. That's a sticky one. Just slowly avoid her. Ever so gradually let her down. Remember-- her depression, or ruthless self-harm is HER problem-- NOT yours.

Answer 10

suicidal or psycho? well, i think you may need to recommend her to someone. not to be sarcastic, but if she appers to be like that, then talk to someone close to her because that can be very serious, but don't be too harsh. good luck!