Our son is dating a girl who treats him badly. She picks fights with him constantly. She is very insecure and gets jealous when we go out for family dinners (she'll call every five minutes). She got upset with our son when we bought him a car (why this upset her none of us is sure). She gets upset with him constantly. She and her mother spend tons of money on him and they can't even fix the broken toilet in their home. She is in major debt and hasn't even graduated college (using student loan money to vacations), and is generally a bad influence for our son. She is his first serious girlfriend and is already talking about marrying her. Yikes! What can we say to him to convince him he is making a poor choice in partners?
2007-02-27 11:51:18 · 5 answers · asked by Bean Counter 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
fight back for your son. buy him a puppy and sign him up for online dating. get her to say bad things about you. Theres no way your son would date a girl if she hates his parents!
2007-02-27 12:06:43 · answer #1 · answered by Pandacatfox 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Perhaps you shouldn't jump into judging her so quick, my in-laws thought the same of me at the beginning until they found out why we were fighting, and had a good look at my family history- which wasn't good, and took things one day at a time. I even had to jump in and live with them for a while, gradually they got to know me and they love me, and they now have grandchildren. Give this girl a chance and try to know her better, ask questions to her face about family and everything- of course you have to sus her out. I believe all in-laws seem to flip when they have in their own minds what is good for their child and find out he wants different so don't rush to condemn her.
2007-02-27 12:03:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no one needs to benefit they made a undesirable determination, and that is going double for somebody of their previous due adolescents/early Nineteen Twenties. If he's in actuality in this age variety, and it is his first intense female buddy, he must be happy that he finally got here across somebody and could do besides the fact that it takes to maintain her. the desirable subject to do in my view is to speak to him flippantly with out making any derogatory feedback approximately her or elevating your voice. The extra annoying you're to him, the lots extra in all probability he will do the choice. Ask him to place off getting married till one in each and every of them finishes college. attempt to get him to pass to an out of city or out of state college. according to danger all you're able to do is deliver him on a trip for some months - stay at a relative's abode or carry out a little student vacationing around Europe. that ought to get him to work out that there are different options accessible.
2016-10-16 22:06:11 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we all know from experience that if you tell him she's a bad thing, it's a sure way to make him run toward her. crappy, isn't it? maybe let it go for a while and see if he can figure it out himself. if she pulls anything in front of you,at your house, let her and him know that it isn't acceptable in your home. if it happens in public, quietly tell your son that you'll have to leave if it doesn't stop. best of luck to you.
2007-02-27 11:58:58 · answer #4 · answered by racer 51 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this might seem a bit extreme but you should video tape them secretly and then show him how she treats him. he needs to see it for his self.also talk to him about how you feel about her maybe he will listen. the him how serious marriage is and how this does not sound like the right girl.
2007-02-27 12:03:49 · answer #5 · answered by Jackie 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋