Or are you selective? God wants us to forgive ALL who trespass against us, or make us unhappy in any way shape or form. THIS IS DIFFICULT! How, exactly can one achieve utter and total forgiveness and not feel like a sap afterwards? A pushover? I did it once and it HONESTLY WORKED! But the forgiveness left! Maybe a few extra prayers will bring it back. Thanks. God Bless.
2007-02-27 11:48:03 · 17 answers · asked by Forgotten Man 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
You forgive all trespass, but that doesn't mean you have to allow others to trespass on you repeatedly
2007-02-27 11:51:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Is there a better choice than Forgiveness ?
Sometimes we feel that forgiving the people who have harmed us is tantamount to condoning
their harmful behavior. Therefore, staying angry with them seems the only way to express our continued disapproval of their behavior. However, this is not the case. A person, and their behavior are separate. We can not say that a person is evil, even if his behavior or intention is harmful. Every person has some internal goodness that can not be destroyed, no matter how badly he or she may act.
Thus, we can forgive, and let go of all our anger and ill feelings toward the person who harmed us and at the same time maintain that his behavior was injurious and unacceptable and should not be continued in the future.
Forgiving benefits ourselves as well as others.
When we hold onto our anger, we're tense and unhappy, and this affects our relationships and physical health. By forgiving, we let go of our anger, and thus cease our own suffering. We also prevent ourselves from assuming the role of the perpetrator, as victims so often do, and thus we stop the cycle of harm.
People wonder whether forgiving means forgetting. *No, it does not. Remembering is important, but no benefit comes from keeping the pain, hurt, resentment, and anger alive in our hearts. Remembering with compassion is more powerful. Motivated by compassion, we can take strong measures to prevent or interrupt harm. Thus, forgiving does not render us a "softy."
Hope this helps you.
2007-02-27 23:27:52 · answer #2 · answered by Thomas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't believe in total forgiveness at all. If that was the case then people could do virtually anything couldn't they. After all, there would be no real consequence. Just to begin with in order to forgive, the person who has wronged you has to be truly sorry and ask for your forgiveness and then live their life in such a manner as to never offend you in any way again. That doesn't happen often. God bless you too.
2007-02-27 19:54:18 · answer #3 · answered by papricka w 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I believe that God doesn't intend for us to forgive every wrong, but rather to forgive the person. If someone hurts you in some way...repeatedly.....should you stay with them? Does God want us to be with a person who only makes us unhappy? No. I think that you can forgive the person for what they've done, but you do not have to continue to let them hurt you.
2007-02-27 19:54:07 · answer #4 · answered by poetess 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, I forgive all who tresspass against Me. But it is the Father in heaven who has final judgement. His mercy does not extend to those who do not believe in the Son. This includes followers of the False Prophet, who was also the Son of The Fallen Angel. Islam
2007-02-27 19:51:35 · answer #5 · answered by Samuel Crow 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When I realize that Jesus forgave me my sins and tossed them far from me, then it isn't too difficult to forgive others the same way.
I learn to walk in forgiveness. It was more difficult before when a curse went my way, but I just imagine a boomerang heading my way, dipped in the Love of God, returned to sender. So, then the hurt leaves me. And, I am submitting to Gods Word by blessing those who curse me. That is walking in forgiveness.
Also, God won't hear our prayers if we are in unforgiveness. So, submit unto God, resist satan and satan flees. Also, you shouldn't be afraid that they are going to get away with it. It is easy to forgive (only with the love of God), but trust God to get that person on the right track.
If the forgiveness left, then you didn't forget it. Jesus forgot your sins. So? Meditating on the wrongs one did you isn't going to help you, but get you back into unforgiveness. You can learn to be wary around that person. But that is just putting on your Christian Armor. Remember, that person needs God.
2007-02-27 20:04:54 · answer #6 · answered by LottaLou 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I suppose it all depends on how bad the wrongdoing was. If it was something that is unbelievable and you don't think you can forgive them, I don't think you HAVE to. God probably wouldn't want you to be with someone who is emotionally hurting you! If you can overlook the wrongdoing and still love someone, then it's worth forgiving. Just think, can things go on the way they were after this and still be completely normal? It's okay not to forgive sometimes, but try to be optimistic!!
2007-02-27 19:52:51 · answer #7 · answered by ~*Beautiful Dreamer*~ 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It takes a lot of mental and emotional work to forgive someone, however, there are some things I don't think I could ever bring myself to forgive. They're so heinous, I don't even want to think about them.
You have to think about what's worth holding on to, and what you need to let go of.
2007-02-27 19:53:40 · answer #8 · answered by E D 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
In Matthew 18:22 Jesus answered a question about forgiving ..........
I say not unto thee. Until seventimes:but, Until seventy times seven.
Which means forgive all the time .If we can't forgive how would Jesus forgive us of all our Many sins against him .
2007-02-27 19:54:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Luk 17:4 And if he trespass against thee seven times in a day, and seven times in a day turn again to thee, saying, I repent; thou shalt forgive him.
2007-02-27 19:53:17 · answer #10 · answered by John B 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋