is there a way to actually "forget"?

Question

i have painful memories of this person and i just miss them so much. i can't stop thinking of them but i wanna stop living in the past. is there a way to just forget and move on. i don't wanna be depressed but it's hard when they just keep popping into your mind

Answer 1

ive had this feeling not so long ago and wish i could give you a straight forward answer but there is none, you just have to move on ( always hated how harsh that sounds) and after time it will get easier as other things and people come into your life to fill the void! I can't say there will be a time when you never think of them but it won't be as painful and you'll learn how to cope naturally and they won't pop into your mind as much, it may take months but don't give up, keep going and be strong!

Answer 2

I don't know that you really want to forget this person completley. There is nothing wrong with remembering someone. There is however a difference between memories and dwelling. I have done this many times. What I have done when I start dwelling(and I have done it alot) is I will call my best friend on the phone and we will try to take my mind off of that person. doing a little house work. Now I am not sure what your painful memories are. If they are very tramatic for you however, you should think about therapy. Don't ever think that your problem is to small for that either, Or that you don't want to bother people with your problems. That is what true friends are for. and Therapists are there for that too. hope this helps.

Answer 3

I would like an answer to this question also. But I try to keep myself busy with things so I don't have much time to sit and think about the bad things. Some days are better than others but I don't think you forget the memories. Sometimes when I wish I could forget things I tell myself I wouldn't be the person I am today if I didn't go through that. Sometimes it works. It's hard.

Answer 4

Yes you can move forward. I did. You have to put that person away now. Put them in a special place in your heart. You will never forget that person but, slowly the hurt goes away and thinking about the everyday goes away. And once in awhile you will smile over something you did with them but it passes. It isn't easy but you have to move on and not live in the past or you will get very depressed and that is not healthy. You will never actually forget but it won't consume you like it is now. Good Luck

Answer 5

Oh man I get you, but think of it this way, you wont forget but just keep as a memory, think of that person as someone from tha past and just keep tha memories, becuz thats all u have, and try to make new memories with someone else. Love hurts, but just think about it this way why cry over someone who's not crying over you and doesn't care if your crying in tha first place, let it out once stand up tall and value yourself for who you are, and think about tha next lucky bastard thats gonna get to be with you.

Answer 6

Of course it's impossible to forget a person and the effect that they had on your life, but be like me and repress memories or start splicing open skin when you get the chance.

Answer 7

I have the same problem, the best way is to replace it with something else. Become more involved with other friends, open yourself to the possibility to dating someone new, and when they pop into your head try not to stay focused on it or the feeling but to instead redirect yourself to something else. Its extremely hard but as time passes it gets alot easier.

Answer 8

I know it's eaiser said than done but don't dwell on it. Keep yourself occuppied with other things. Slowly but surely you will stop thinking about the person and you will move on. Have patience though.

Answer 9

I have the exact problem.If there's truelly a way,I'd love 2 know.When u can finnally get on w/yur life.The nightmares hunt u in yur sleep.Hun,it doesn't ever go away.U just have 2 learn 2 cope w/it.&,I know it's not easy.I wish u the best.Good luck.

Answer 10

I felt the same way when i was 10. They kill my brother when he was 16 "n" i was 10. At first i cried "n" cried "n"cried 4 da longest time ever, but da more i did the worst i felt. When i cried it felt like i had the bullet that they used 2 kill my brother in me "n" thought that they were gonna kill me. Since then I've just reminded myself that when i cry he cries harder and now i fell better.