I'm having troubles with school?

Question

Well at school i feel like im not wanted there and no one likes me but my 3 best friends. And mostly this group of guys are bothering me and being mean i just dont know what to do should i go to a different school???????

Answer 1

My grandaughter always confided in me on everything. Her biggest problem was school, like you. She would cry and tell me she wanted to change schools. I told her running away from a problem never solved anything. My suggestion to her was this. When "mean" kids make fun of her, laugh and tell them "that was a good one. Got anymore?" If if got to bad, I told her to walk away like she heard nothing. Going to the principal or conselor would only make things worse because these kids would be confronted for what they did. It would only add fuel to the fire and things could get worse. Kids in general are mean. It's a fact of life. My grandaughter is very intelligent and speaks very good english. Kids told her she thought she was better and smarter. One thing i told her to say was that, no she wasn't smarter, just articulate. Of course, most didnt' understand. She continued with my suggestions, laughing off their insults, walking away and now as a Junior in hight school, she is very popular. They gave up teasing her. Some even apologized to her for past behavior. She hugged them and told them she forgave them. She also asked them to consider other students feelings when they felt the need to taunt them. Now, I'm not saying this will work for everyone, but it sure is a good start. IGNORE THEM or laugh with them, they will eventually get tired of trying to hurt you and give up. Try it and see how it works. Just don't transfer schools because it may just start all over again. You have 3 good friends, expand your friendship with others. That's all I have and I do hope things get better for you. God bless you for your tolerance.

Answer 2

Are all your troubles social? Or are you having academic problems as well?

Social troubles: This can be a real problem--from your post I assume you are either in middle school, junior high, or high school. Count on your friends and treasure them; stick around with them if that group comes near. If that group of guys start doing something physical, such as pushing you, report it. If they are using slurs, bad language, or are keeping you from studying, report it. This isn't "tattling"--this is being responsible, and trying to stop something before it gets out of hand. If they are just bothering and teasing, the best thing to do is to ignore it. Stare through them like they are not there, and then continue your conversation with your friends.

If your problem is academic, speak with your teachers, and ask for help. Any teacher worth their salt will be glad to help a student who requests help.

Don't even consider going to a different school. Problems like you describe can be found in any school--take it from one who knows.

Answer 3

There's prolly a reason why though...I suggest that you open up a little bit more. It may be hard in the begginning, but try to talk to other people other than your best friends and try to be nice most of the time. Once you have more friends the one's mean to you will leave you alone. Do not go to a different school.

Answer 4

Talk to your parents about how you feel and tell them the thing that are going on in school. Ask to speak with the school guidance consular. And most of all seek or find way to avoid those who bull you around by just walking away from them or just laugh out loud and say your real funny pal.

Answer 5

Being mean? What does that mean? It sounds like you're being too touchy. Is this one of those "oh just get over it "moments?

School IS mean. There is probably no one who can say that they didn't have to put up with something......kids are mean....get on with it.

Answer 6

No, just tell on them or you be mean to them back so they will know how you feel.

Answer 7

Yes, before it turns into bullying.