What I mean is if a guy likes u when he meets u and tells u that he likes how u look and after he gets to know u a little tells u that he likes your personality do u get turned off? Why? Would u rather he hold his feelings in for the first couple of weeks?
Personally I think that so many relationships end badly because of lack of communication and fear of expressing yourself so why would we promote it by expecting people to be cautious about expressing their feelings?
2007-02-27 11:34:53 · 5 answers · asked by Vince R 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
personally, i enjoy flattery. when a guy first meets me there's no way he can truly know my personality, so i can understand it when he compliments me on my looks.
later on, when he gets to know me i love it when he compliments me on my personality. the "no bs" guys are my favorite. i hate mind games! i think we promote being cautious because if a guy isn't forward with comments like "you're hot" then he has less of a change of getting shot down. my feelings on this is that a guy should be confident enough to not care about getting shrugged off!
2007-02-27 11:43:05 · answer #1 · answered by chi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, only in the beginning are people more cautious about what they say. I agree that many relationships end for lack of better communication- but it all starts with the individual. It takes two to hold a conversation, and I think that's what's key when meeting someone. Otherwise, you just met the wrong person for you.
And I don't think being cautious about expressing your feelings isn't so bad- it's just a way to be safe, to not offend, or jump in to quickly.
2007-02-27 11:42:46 · answer #2 · answered by candy- capped 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't want a guy 2 just say it, he needs to actually feel it. Just the same, girls don't quite understand guys,sometimes we tend to get mad when we think this is why he hasn't called, or why he hasn't done what he said he would. So the best advice for a boy is if u like a girl tell her in a cool way, very laid back, don't try to jump out of your way 2 get her attention. u might scare her of, unless she's professed her love to you and you need to prove yoursl. If not just write a note, or tell herin a hall way or ask for her number, and always call when u say u we're we like that.
2007-02-27 11:44:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's WHAT IS BEING SAID, we tend to caution people about. Yes, a person should be able to express him/herself in a way that they can get their point across BUT without hurting someone. That's all...By all means, I always encourage people to talk. No one can read you mind or know how you feel or thinking if you don't. Agreed?
2007-02-27 11:54:28 · answer #4 · answered by Ms Kamm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think if a guy likes me I do not want him to come on too strong. I would prefer him to tell me he likes my style and my persona. Then get my number. Maybe call then next day so I know he is not about games and take it from there.
2007-02-27 11:38:31 · answer #5 · answered by Cali Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋