Terribly sorry to go off topic my religion & spirituality friends....about homosexuality.....?

Question

I did not choose to be bisexual. Why would I have? My parents condemn homo/bisexuality,I have to keep it a secret from a few friends,and it gives me mental hell. Why would I choose this?
I didn't.So what happened?
Did you choose YOUR sexuality?
Note-this is really to those to those who think that it is a choice,but answer as you wish.

Woah. Sorry about this. I seem to have made a terribly unorganized rant.
I have had a bad day...so I'm a bit off....

Answer 1

I didn't choose bisexuality either. I haven't told my parents either... then again, it really isn't much of an issue because I've never been with a woman and I married a man. If it ever really comes up, I'll tell them. Otherwise... I probably won't.

You wouldn't choose this. You didn't choose this. And don't let ANYTHING ever convince you that it's somehow "wrong".

Answer 2

Neither unorganised nor a rant in my opinion. Just an honest heartfelt explanation. Thank you Myaloo.

Personally I think sexuality is a continuum or a spectrum. At one end you have exclusively heterosexual and at the other, exclusively homosexual.

I believe most people have a mix of some of both. If your culture, religion or some other external pressure is sufficient, and you're somewhere 'in the middle', it may cause you to repress one bit. Maybe that's what happened with ZER0.

I assumed I was 'straight', found out otherwise, but then found a heterosexual partner. It might have gone either way at one point I suppose. I found that I am attracted to personality and qualities more than physique (which sounds a bit insulting to my wife, but it wasn't meant like that!)

But I think for most people, while there is a possibility of 'wobble' around the point of the continuity where your sexuality lies, there isn't an option. Someone at one end of the spectrum simply can't choose to change to the 'opposite' orientation, whether it conflicts with their culture or beliefs or not.

You have to follow your inner nature. I think to do otherwise leads to hell (on Earth of course). Good luck and thank you for sharing.
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Answer 3

Good question. I think it is a mistake to put "either it's genetic, or it's your choice". There are a lot of things we did not choose. I did not choose to have a mother and a grandmother and a greatgrandmother who were alcoholics. But when I took my first drinks at 13 years old, and wantd more and more, I did choose to give in to my urges, acting the fool all through my teen years. Today I choose to abstain.
No, you did not necessarily choose to be a bi-sexual. I don't think that means it is genetic. Psychological elements enter our way of being, even when we are babies. To repeat a cliché, the most powerful sexual organ is the mind.
So no, it wasn't a choice. What you do with it is your choice. I don't mean to sound harsh, or judgemental. I haven't always made the right choices in life.
There are organiazations that can give help in the sexual thought process. Unfortunately, they are often perceived as being judgmental. I don't know if they are judgmental or not, but they are perceived that way. (I'm thinking of one organization called "Exodus". All I know about it is its name, and that it has had some measure of success. It is, I understand, a faith-based organization).
When Christians say "just repent, it's a choice", I think they are not quite getting it. But I don't think the solution is to just accept the status quo in our lives. We all have passions that we need to work on changing.

Answer 4

No, you didn't choose.

Your orientation is a matter of BIOLOGY not MORALITY.

The "choice" you have is in how you live your life - how you deal with it - what kind of character you will have.

People always seem to mix up MORALITY with BIOLOGY - I think the two things are separate when you're talking about sexual orientation. Did you "choose" to be a girl or a boy - NO - it's your biology that you're born with! Straight people can't just "choose" to be gay and make it so. "You are what you are" (even though that may not seem to make alot of sense!) We are "hardwired" before we're born. What kind of person you become afterwards - that's up to YOU!

I wish that people would "wake up" and realize that being gay doesn't automatically mean that you're "immoral" in some way. And it's certainly not something that you just "choose." What kind of moron would you have to be to choose an orientation that attracts so much persecution?

Stay Strong! - I hope you sort out your feelings - and will be happy with the person that you are!

Answer 5

if it was a choice, then why would anyone choose that life.

death threats, regulated to second class citizen without the simple rights to be married...

to me that would be akin to putting a gun in front of somebody and saying you must point it at your head and pull the trigger,
BUT IT IS YOUR CHOICE TO PUT THE BULLETS IN OR TO TAKE THEM OUT.

why would anyone choose the lifestyle that will lead to pain...

there is only one answer..it is natural and it is not a choice.
so there is no choice to be made.

oh and a good rant is nice to see once in awhile, it shows that you are actually a human with emotions, and not just a glass screen with a cartoon picture on it.

blessed be and be blessed.

Answer 6

I do not believe that most choose orientation, and I’m sorry you are going through a rough time.

My opinion, we are who we are and although most do not choose, we all must act responsibly when it comes to our sexual urges.

Sex can be an expression of love but it can also be used to abuse and harm. To me, who a person is attracted to isn’t nearly as important as how we treat that person. All of us share the same emotions and are capable of being harmed by the reckless actions of another, particularly when sex is added to the equation.

So I would tell you as a Christian and a mom, you are who you are. But regardless of orientation take responsibility for your actions, and take seriously the emotional consequences of any intimate relationship.

Answer 7

Hiya Myaloo, sorry you had such a bad day. Honestly, I never thought that bisexuals had such a hard time of it. I just imagined that that they had the best of both worlds since they have a larger pool of possible partners. I guess I'll have to rethink this.

Answer 8

God does not create a person with homosexual desires. The Bible tells us that a person becomes a homosexual because of sin (Romans 1:24-27), and ultimately because of their own choice. A person may be born with a greater susceptibility to homosexuality, just as people are born with a tendency to violence and other sins. That does not excuse the person choosing to sin by giving into their sinful desires. If a person is born with a greater susceptibility to anger / rage, does that make it right for then to give into those desires? Of course not! The same is true for homosexuality.

Answer 9

Seems you have had a bad time. Take a deep breath and get off-line for awhile. In this Q&A forum, free speech comes in all forms and that includes hurtful posts. Free yourself from that for awhile. Read or get busy on a hobby to clear your mind.
You'll be okay.

Answer 10

Speaking as a bisexual, I can certainly say that it is not something you choose to be, its something you find you are. Repression of it isnt healthy, just accept it. Its nothing to be ashamed of - thats the path I went down and that activated the self-destruct button for a year, but eventually I learnt to embrace who I was at that moment in my life.