Is it fair to the other person if you're not happy with your life? Should you wait until you feel more fulfilled as an individual before being with someone else?
2007-02-27 11:23:46 · 17 answers · asked by Ummm.....yeah 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
one has to first understand the root of the unhappiness in his/her life. If that unhappiness stems from being single then the clear answer is find a relationship. Find the root and solve the problem from the root not just the symptoms.
One thing that I tell my friends is be like a cat. Meaning do what makes you feel good and let the others worry about themselves. A cat will let you pet it for as long as IT wants you to pet it. Dogs will let you pet them until they go bold even though they might not be getting pleasure out of it anymore.
If you are unsure if you should be in a relationship then probably it is not a good relationship. I always recommend sampling the buffet. sampling the buffet does not mean slutting it up.
I wish you all the best.
2007-02-27 11:31:42 · answer #1 · answered by Moose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are in a relationship only to fill a void, then you shouldn't be in one. Another person can't take the place of some undone thing or unanswered question you have. They can't take away the pain of a bad childhood or bring back the dog you lost. Until you can put your personal demons on the back burner, then you're not ready. It's not fair to the other person, and it ends up being a relationship where they do all of the giving, you do all of the taking. Eventually...the other person has nothing left to give you, and they leave.
If your void IS a lack of relationship...then having a good relationship would make your life happy. If your problems are just unmet goals, and you find someone who is aiming for the same goals...then a relationship could benefit both of you.
2007-02-27 19:27:35 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa E 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that is a good idea because if you're not happy and you're not even really sure who you are then why spend time in this relationship if you're not really happy yourself. Maybe the reason you're not happy is because of the person you're with or maybe they're holding you back from doing what you want to do. Maybe you want to go to school in another state or something and he doesn't well then that's holding you back. So maybe take some time off from eachother and search what would make you happy.
2007-02-27 19:27:52 · answer #3 · answered by Crystal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Noone should be in any relationship when unhappy, definately NO!
No, it isn't fair to the "other" partner.
YES, wait until fulfilled as an individual BEFORE being with someone else.
If not, it "sets" the other person up to get hurt and they build false hopes!
Clear out the "Cobwebs" of your life, clean things up, don't worry, BE HAPPY!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-02-27 19:32:58 · answer #4 · answered by julesrules 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, there is some bad news about fulfillment in life. Humans are natural wanters and there will be always something more in life they we want. It is very sappy, but happyness comes from within. And if you aren't happy with your life, and are depressed about it, being with someone is not going to make things any easier. Then you are only basing your happyness on that person that came into your life. Then if by chance, they leave, then what? You have to find what makes you happy then go for it.
2007-02-27 19:28:43 · answer #5 · answered by Chris H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's good you asked this. Too many people believe someone else can make them happy. You're smarter than that and know your life needs some tuning up before you enter a relationship.
2007-02-27 19:29:06 · answer #6 · answered by beez 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To answer ur question... it really depends on the situation cuz sumthins when ur life isnt where u want it too.. like mine rite now sumtimes getting or beinging in a relationship can really help u but in other cases it could seriously hurt the other person tats trying to keep tat relationship going.
IF u could be add more detail i could tell if its a good idea or not.
If u need anything else email me @ : godsbaby42@yahoo.com
*Much LOve* **God Bless**
2007-02-27 19:30:50 · answer #7 · answered by Tell Mariee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did.. i wasn't happy with my life like that and didn't want to hurt anybody in the process.. so i stayed single and found out who i was.. got to experience life and change what was wrong. When i decided it was time i started dating.
It was the best thing i ever did. Now i am happy and my bf loves it that i am a happy independent person.
Good luck
2007-02-27 19:28:29 · answer #8 · answered by Angel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If being with someone else would make your life more fulfilling... then no, don't wait... but if you don't think your relationship would be healthy due to your unhappiness, yes wait.
2007-02-27 19:28:06 · answer #9 · answered by telenanher420a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's absolutely not fair to someone else to get into a relationship if you're already not happy.This just would seem doomed from day 1.
2007-02-27 19:30:53 · answer #10 · answered by Sandra M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋