Ok one of my bridesmaids is epileptic and can not be around flasing lights at all....we have everything set up with the photographer so her pics are all taken during the day without flash...My DJ has agreed to no strobe lights and will keep the light show to a minimum...my question is...I am getting a H2 limo for the bridal party to ride to the ceremony and the reception...it does have neon lights on the inside...Is it wrong for me not to want the lights off??? As far as I know they do not flash, but I am already cutting out so much for her....is it selfish of me not to want the lights in the limo off???
2007-02-27 10:51:08 · 7 answers · asked by Soon2BMrsCarlson 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I don't think you are selfish. This is your wedding, after all, and you already did so much for your friend.
I think friendships work best if both parties sacrifice a bit. Go for the lights, it's your limo - it's your life.
2007-02-27 10:57:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't think that you are being selfish, however I think that you need to take a look at the lights prior to the wedding with your friend. If she can't handle the lights, won't it ruin your wedding anyways if she has a seizure. I think you need to consider whether it's more important to have lights in your limo or you're friend healthy on your wedding day. Once again, I don't think you are selfish. This is your wedding day and you deserve to get everything you want on this day, but if one of those things is your epileptic friends in your wedding than, as you already know and have shown, that you need to make sacrifices which may extend to the lights in your limo.
2007-02-27 19:25:12 · answer #2 · answered by Angela B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to ask the limo company if the lights can be on, but not flashing. If necessary, call it a reasonable accommodation under the Americans with Disabilities Act.
If they can have the lights on, but not flashing, it shouldn't be a problem.
2007-02-27 21:16:31 · answer #3 · answered by JohnD 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Neons won't cause a seizure...it's really just strobe lights, but many, many photographs during the course of the day would create a strobe effect. I am sure she'll be fine w/ the limo.
2007-02-27 20:21:36 · answer #4 · answered by DuneFL 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'd think the lights would be ok if they are not flashing, but why not ask her...she should know what she can handle and not handle, just don't make her feel that it's her fault you've cut out so much "just for her" I'm sure she feels bad that you are cutting back stuff on her account.
2007-02-27 19:02:59 · answer #5 · answered by Kitikat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ask her what she thinks....or better yet...go with her to the limo place and take a look at the lights...she what she thinks...you asked her to be in your bridal party so you had to know there would be special considerations needed......work with it...you don't want her having a seizure do you? Good luck
2007-02-27 18:54:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
either you do love her and will accommodate her needs...
>love does not wish to hurt another<
or perhaps it is possible you just wished to look good to others by having her as a part of your wedding????
2007-02-27 18:57:55 · answer #7 · answered by gypsy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋