i went in to my sons room and he was masterbarteing what should i do about i know it is ok to do it im kind afried to ask him about what should i do
2007-02-27 10:40:14 · 3 answers · asked by tammy l 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You've experienced something most parents do at one time or another while raising their children. A lot of his response will be based on what you did when you interrupted him. It's that first time that sets the standard for future discussions with him.
I found the best way to handle that situation when it arrives is to excuse yourself in as calm a manner as you can, tell the child you didn't mean to interrupt, and later casually mention that when engaged in something private, one might consider locking the door. By doing that, you are letting them know their actions are OK, and it's normal (I would even mention that in passing), and that you truly didn't mean to intrude on their privacy while they were indulging.
I know you feel badly about it, and I hope it's because you truly didn't want to embarrass him. But if you pressing him to talk about it will only add to the embarrassment he feels about being interrupted. Mentioning it's a natural human thing to do and letting him know you will be there for him if he wants to talk about it are probably enough. Don't, however, *make* him talk with you about it. You extend the offer to listen and let him decide to take you up on your offer, or not.
And by the way, I don't believe it's a sin, it's the most normal thing for males and females of all ages. As long as it doesn't become an obsession with him, there's no better safe way to discover one's own body, and what feels good and what does not. Hopefully, when he is older and finds his own special person, his knowledge will make him a better partner.
By the way, condolences on the loss of your spouse in Iraq, I'm a former sailor during the Viet Nam era.
Good luck, and Peace Be....
Bob H
2007-03-01 15:32:08 · answer #1 · answered by winefp2000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl,
Atlhough masterbating is normal its also a sin. I would advise you to just talk to him about it and ask God for guidance. I know its hard being a single mother but God is with you. Whenever you get a chance read Romans 10:9 in the bible and God will show you the way.
2007-02-27 12:52:31 · answer #2 · answered by Sweetie 07 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-03-02 11:09:26 · answer #3 · answered by ~**Athena's Mommy**~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋