I know this question is lame and that I personally think not but it would be nice to get other perspectives. I have been talking to this guy for about four months on the phone. We have only met twice and I asked him if he wanted a relatinship or not. He told me yes but he has to have physical. I am a 20 yr old virgin but I think he does not want a relationship just sex. He told me that he can't talk to me because I turn him on. I told him in the beginning that he was expected sex he would be disappointed. However, when we first met I could not help strongly flirting with him. I stared into his eyes alot and when he rubbed my hand I did not object. He held his hand out for me to touch so I began running my fingers up and down his hand. I did not intend to behave the way I did. I felt comfortable around him. I feel bad because I must have sent mixed signals. I feel like an idiot to believe I turn him on too much but he did go to an all boys school from 7-12, then to an all men's college.
2007-02-27 10:36:59 · 2 answers · asked by aisha r 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thanks for the feedback!
2007-02-27 10:37:38 · update #1
I would appreciate that Caramella.
2007-02-27 11:34:42 · update #2
Fall all over yourself apologizing for not being sexually available to him.
That said, if he only wants a relationship that includes sex and you only want a relationship that doesn't include sex, you might as well stop now.
After the apology.
But it's completely your right to not have sex.
2007-02-27 12:02:45 · answer #1 · answered by Curt Monash 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yah, if he is repressed enough you can turn him on too much. Don't make him make you think that now you owe him your body because you flirted with him. Don't do ANYTHING out of guilt, especially sex. I made that mistake a long time ago and it's the only regret I have. I'll email you with details, I really think you should hear my story before you give in to this guy.
2007-02-27 11:27:27 · answer #2 · answered by Caramella 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋