i am 14 years old and i will admit i have a anger problem.
but its not my fault that noone understand why
and when i try and talk about it i cry.
to start my family EEEEEEEESSSSSSSSSSSSSSS my boyfriend with a passion. and i HATTTTTTEEEEEEEEEEEE my family with a passion. my sister is always talking crap about him and i pulled a kinfe on her today and we statred like fist fighing. im not crazy i am just very sentisitve about what people say.
i have a briuse on my chest from the fight and i cant stop shaking my mom threatied 2 call the cops. idk what to do HELP
2007-02-27 10:17:49 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
we go to councling.
and no it is not a happy home at all
i dont like living here
and i wanna movie out.
and i cant
cause my mom said id i leave she'll call the cops.
when im 16 i am moving out and moving in with my boyfriend.
2007-02-27 10:31:28 · update #1
they dislike my boyfriend bc
he had a bad rep. in school and my teachers were worrided about me.
but i know hes changed for the better
he stoped all the he was on for me
and hes such a better person
i am in love and i am 14 and i am not 2 young.
2007-02-27 10:36:34 · update #2
I say it's time to grow up... pulling knives on anyone, especially a family member is a no-no....
Why do you hate your family so much.. Do they treat you poorly? abandon you...WHAT?
Look,,,unless you are really being mistreated....Your family is the one whom loves you....
Respect goes both ways...if you want it, you also need to give it...
fighting with them, and pulling knives will send you on a downward spiral into an abyss that you do not want to be in....
I suggest that you try to work things out...People don't always agree on things...THAT'S LIFE... mature people learn to compromise and work things out....Anger and fighting DO NOT resolve problems.....
If you pull a weapon on anyone....It's your fault, unless you are trying to defend yours or someone else's life....Part of growing up is owning up to the crap you have done and trying to correct those things...instead of continuously blaming your problems on someone else
2007-02-27 10:31:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow hon, you are only 14 years old. Babe boys are going to come and go, sure now you think that he is the one and who knows maybe he is the one. Who can guarantee you that he is going to be with you tomorrow.
Your family on the other hand obviously loves you if they are too going thru therapy. They see all the things you can't see, cause you are in love. From experience I can tell you that if your family is not accepting your BF is because they have notice things that you can't. I went thru the same thing with my folks, I had a complete plan to run away luckily I didn't cause I wouldn't be where I am today. My cousin on the other hand she did and is now living with whomever will let her stay. She has three kids and gets beat up every other day by her abusive BF.
Your mom probably said she would call the cops because of the way you reacted. Keep going to your AM classes.
Good luck.
2007-02-27 10:50:13 · answer #2 · answered by hayde_kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You pulled a knife on your sister. Uh uh - blood is blood and is more important than any relationship. Maybe all of you (mom, sis and boyfriend) need to sit down and talk. Either all together or with a counselor. You are not old enough to make your own decisions and definitely not old enough to have strong feelings for boys yet. You might think you do, but you will find out differently later in life. Talk to a school counselor and work on your anger problems. Then work on your relationship with your mom and sister. But, no your sister should not be running her mouth about your boyfriend. Especially if she is aware of how you react to things.
2007-02-27 10:33:48 · answer #3 · answered by eharrah1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know you don't want to hear this but you were very wrong. if you pulled a knife here, you would most definatly go to jail. i have had my son arrested for less than that. you need to learn to deal with what you call"talking crap" it seems as though the entire younger population is only worried about what others say. they're just words. why get yourself worked up about it? who cares what people say?
hate is a pretty strong word. be careful how you use it. and to say you are just sensitive is an understatement.
you need to talk to your mom. one on one. keep your temper and listen. i'm sure she'll have something to say. you won't like it but frankly, thats to bad. she is your mom. the only one you get in this world. show her some respect and she'll do the same for you. ask her about seeing someone for the anger issues. it really can help.
best of luck to you and don't forget to listen. they could be right about your boyfriend. you're only 14. you can't really trust your own judgement yet even though you think you can.
2007-02-27 10:36:03 · answer #4 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be afraid to go to your room and cry because everybody needs a good cry every once in a while to get sh*t off their mind. Don't start anything and if you do, then just say "I'm playing, i didn't mean anything by it, don't take it personally" and if your sister is starting it ask your mom to control her. Tell your sister you have an anger problem and warn her. If she has a heart she wouldn't mess with you and test your limits. Sometimes you need to lash out and get things off your chest too, but not physically. Get her alone and express yourself to her because you know you love her. And I'm sure that if anybody ever fought your sister like you do, you would beat they a** and help your sister out. Try not to fight with her anymore
2007-02-27 10:32:27 · answer #5 · answered by LadyPureDee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow well first off I just would like to say that you cant control what people think or say about you or anybody else. That's why everyone are individuals because we all have our own opinions. Second I would like to say you need to get your anger problem in check because its only going to be harder for you later in life. You can listen to what I am saying or you can ignore it but mark my words life is going to be very difficult for you if you don't get HELP! Thirdly, I think you should when "time permits" apologize to your mom for being disrespectful & your sister for fighting her, because like I said she is an individual and can say whatever she wants (learn to ignore her) Have you heard the term: BLOOD IS THICKER THAN WATER~ trust me this is true no man, boyfriend will be there longer than family. Keep that in mind too... I know all that I am saying you probably dont agree with but trust me I am telling you the truth if you dont change or try to change now you will end up in jail or worst. Change for you and not anybody else....good luck~!
2007-02-27 10:32:10 · answer #6 · answered by collins2004_08 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off you need to apologize to your Mother for disrespecting her home. Then apologize to your sister for over reacting. After the dust clears, sit and talk with your Mom and let her know what the problem is and why things are the way they are with you. So what if you cry, crying is healthy for everyone. Crying may even help you get through some of your anger. Good Luck!
2007-02-27 10:25:50 · answer #7 · answered by Million C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need help before you get hurt or you hurt someone else, or before you find yourself in the back of a police black-and-white on the way to being booked for assault.
Ask your mom to take you to the doctor so you can get a referral to a counselor or therapist who specializes in working with teens. Going to a counselor or therapist does not mean you are crazy, or bad, or "broken", or anything like that. It means that you are mature enough to acknowledge that you need HELP from someone who can give you guidance in how to interact with people without getting into physical conflict.
If your mom or dad or whoever is responsible for making appointments with doctors won't help you, then go to your school counselor or school nurse and tell them that you need a referral to someone who can help you. And then follow through!
Please try to connect with a counselor or therapist. You don't sound suicidal, but if you can't get help any other way, call a suicide hotline and ask them if they can refer you to someone who can help.
Good luck.
2007-02-27 10:34:53 · answer #8 · answered by Karin C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need some professional help, before somebody really gets hurt!
Ask your Mom if you can see a counselor, or see if school has one...you are on the WRONG track with that anger, so get right before the cops DO have to be called...or the morgue does!
2007-02-27 10:30:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like it's not a Happy Home for any of you. I think you know how wrong it was to pull a knife on your sister...and Yes you could get charged with attempted assault......she could also get charged or whoever hit your chest where you now have a bruise*
Obviously talking is not working in your home...I would suggest talking to a counseller at school or through your doctor to help you cope with your anger issues..and to help you through whatever is happening at home...as it seems to me, things are way out of control for each and every one of you.
Get counselling and Goodluck*
2007-02-27 10:27:45 · answer #10 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋