my baby 15 months old when i do not do what he wants he bites me or pulls my haiir.why is he getting violent?

Question

why is he doing this?is it normal toddlers to things like that?

Answer 1

It's a shock to see your sweet little boy behaving like a miniature dictator. Put a stop to it or he'll end up with no friends.

Hitting back isn't the answer
If you want him to learn not to be aggressive, don't smack him or pinch him back. When he lashes out at another child, calmly but swiftly remove him from the scene. Say 'No hitting!' or 'No biting!' in a stern voice with a serious expression. Tell him that you don't like it when he bites or hits but don't label him a bully. Reinforce good behaviour by praising him when he plays cooperatively.

Look at me!
Toddlers often resort to aggressive behaviour when they feel insecure. He may hit out at other children because he's angry and wants to get your attention. Pick him up and cuddle him when visitors arrive or reassure him by sitting near him and making lots of physical contact. Don't sit and drink coffee in the kitchen while the children play. Show him how to play with other children by joining in yourself.

It's not spiteful... yet!
At 3 yrs old, he is still incapable of premeditated aggression. He behaves badly on the spur of the moment. To stop it becoming a habit, divert his attention if he appears tense. If he is seeking your attention by being naughty, pointedly ignore it. If he's hurting another child remove him from the scene without talking to him and with a stern expression.

Answer 2

went through a similar phase with my elder child and am preparing for the same with my younger one (15 months old). there are many reasons and practically every toddler I have met has gone through this phase at some point. There can be many different causes (frustration at not being able to express himself, trying your limits, experimenting new things...), but I heartily disagree with those previous answerers who've told you to bite him back. Never do this! He'll think it is a game and take it as a reason or justification to carry on doing it. What worked with my older boy and with other little ones is a firm "no" (not spanking, biting nor hitting back), and then ignoring any ensuing behaviour. Try to establish what triggers it: is it when you are with other people (he might be seeking your attention), is it when you are playing with him (he might just htink it is part of playing), is it when you are changing him (it might just be a response to being undressed) and try to pre-empt it by distracting him just as you see him getting ready to do it. Rest assured, it is a normal phase, but it is up to you how long that phase lasts! Keep it up, don't despair!

Answer 3

I have a 15 month old as well. He gets mad about something and he bites his toy (or whatever made him angry). He also bites me when he is mad or just for no reason at all. Sometimes I think it may be due to teething. I just tell him "no biting" whenever he does it. I don't think it's right to bite them back. It just teaches them that it is ok and how we deal with anger. Toddlers don't know how to deal with their anger. They just direct it at whatever (or whoever) caused the anger. Just be consistent and firm. Eventually he will learn how to deal with his anger. Here are a few good links on the topic. I particularly like the first one. Good luck!

Answer 4

Because he is 15 months old. He cannot sit down and rationally discuss with you the finer points of why he cannot have sweets once he has brushed his teeth, Play in the mud when he has just been bathed, throw his toys against the window etc etc etc. he is just frustrated and cannot understand. If he bites or pulls your hair immediately tell him NO very sternly and move him away from you. He will hate it and will soon learn that biting and hair pulling is not acceptable. ( be prepared for lots of tears from him)

Answer 5

Why are you allowing this behavior? Babies will try anything to see what works. I wear really long braids and the babies always try to use them to their advantage. The first time one of them goes for the hair and yanks, they go to the crip or the pen immediately and I then proceed to ignore them until they behave. Try a slap, straight to the pen, no toys no attention no nothing. Trust me they get the message fast.

The thing here really is why are you letting a 15 month old run you? who is the parent here? IF you can't handle 15 months, what in the world are you gonna do when he is 15 years old?

Answer 6

For me-I basically stated "no-that hurts" the 1st time. the 2d time (generally the time it took him to run around me) i could upward thrust up and say "i assume you do no longer decide for to play with me now" and that i went to do something else (examine, do dishes-something that bumped off me from the placement). He rather hates this. After a week, he greater a great deal. My son wasn't a great biter till teething so if I have been given a chew-generally at bedtime/sleepy and a shoulder chew-then I gave some tylenol to help together with his tooth and inserted a %. to dam the chew. He additionally pulls on the dogs yet I step in ont he first pull and ask he be comfortable and instruct him the thank you to rub her. The prob is while he hugs her and sometime grabs a fistfull of fur. back I eliminate him from the placement by skill of choosing him up and asserting "we don't injury our domestic dog". She is likewise sufficiently vast now to bounce the infant gates and if he's basically too plenty she will relocate to a distinctive room. He started pulling etc around 14 months and we now have some slips specifically situations yet no longer too undesirable. he's eighteen months now. good success.

Answer 7

Your child is going through a stage were he is realizing that his actions towards you and others gets a reaction the doctor told me when my kids were that age : bite them back not hard just enough for them to realize it doesnt feel good pull their hair back follow the same rule as the biting, keep your head up he will grow out of it

Answer 8

It is absolutely normal for children to do just about anything to get their way. You must show him that you are in control. Explain to him ahead of time what will happen. Then, when he does these things, put him firmly in his "naughty chair", or "naughty corner", or whatever - but always the same place, and without stimulation. Do not argue and do not fight. Tell him he must stay there for 1 minute. If he moves, quietly but firmly put him back. Do not engage him. You may have to put him there many times, but eventually, he'll stay. And, he'll get the idea that if he bites, or whatever, he goes back to the corner. As he gets older, increase the time - one minute for each year of age.

Answer 9

He does it because it worked for him. It may be normal for a toddler to bite a time or two, but he needs to know that the behavior is not acceptable, and he is old enough to learn that fact. Be sure that he is not rewarded for his negative behavior.

Answer 10

My daughter is 15 months and acts the same way... In fact, she's been very "rough" for about 4 months now. Im not sure why, but we just tell her no, and sit her down without letting her get up for about 3 minutes at a time. That usually gets her to listen better when we tell her "no."