Has anyone of you ever have a boyfriend, girlfriend, or spouse cheat you and you forgave them and went back. What happened?? Or does anyone have any advice about going back to someone who has cheated on you?
2007-02-27 10:14:15 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have to add that I love him and I do believe that he loves me too. We were going through a rough time when he cheated. To tell you the truth, I was talking to another guy too, but my boyfriend doesnt know it
2007-02-27 10:20:41 · update #1
yeah i went back to a boyfriend that cheated on me and then like a week later he cheated on me again so dont even waste your time going back to a guy that has cheated on you. just remember "once a cheater always a cheater!" no lie there!
2007-02-27 10:17:53 · answer #1 · answered by oXMaGGieXo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If someone cheats (especially young), usually they are missing something in their lives. They more attention then you are able to give or are giving altogether. Some cheaters continue until they find what they are looking for. Some may only cheat once, but you will never know. If you are dating now and you are young don't settle for less. Set your standards high and respect yourself. When the time is right, the dedicated person you are looking for will show up and be loyal to you...Good Luck!
2007-02-27 18:19:54 · answer #2 · answered by Million C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, and it is a very hard road because you can never really trust that person again......no matter how hard you try. It's best to look at it as starting a new relationship with 'history' then as taking them back, because it will never be like it was again. You need to ask yourself if you can ever truly forgive that person....I mean really forgive them and go forward without always being haunted by images of them with the "other" person. I tried and I couldn't...of course, it didn't help that they continued to browse for porn, check out other women, email their ex-girlfriend, etc... in short, I took him back only to realize he was still a complete tool.
2007-02-27 18:20:48 · answer #3 · answered by Clarissa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know before we got married my wife said "If you ever cheated on me it over period no BUTs no second chance nothing" she said "becasue I trust you and I put my life and future kids life in your hand... that how serious this is"
That really made me have a choice Am I that good to keep it not cheat on my wife or not to marry her becasue I know I will cheat on her???
I Made the choice is that I am going to marry her and She will be my wife and even if we have up and downs and we got married and will be 10 years in oct. and we have 2 kids age 3 and 2 and third one due in April or March... She already trust me and she knows how much I love her and No reason for me to Cheat... I rather to work it out than Cheat one time.... I have never cheated my wife... that what this all about... I would never risk my wife and kids as family apart... I never done cheating before and I never know what it like and I know I will not cheat on my wife.. she already told me 2 weeks before we got married.
So, why cheat first place.. why can't sit down and talked about it and work it out.. if not then break up... it silly to cheat on someone but you playing her or his life and your Gf or Bf.. too lying too wow.
I hopeyou don't take him back becasue "Once cheat always will be Cheater!!!!" You will thanks for my answer becasue I know you are looking for a man who like me and love who you are and try make it work no matter how bad or not good or what ever it is always work it out. commucate.
2007-02-27 18:31:08 · answer #4 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I went back to my boyfriend after he cheated.... he said he was going through a rough time,.,, he said he loved me blah blah blah. So anyway i took him back and for a month he was so sweet and kind to me! but then 4 months later.. i caught him hooking up with a girl! Cheaters never change. good luck anyway.....
2007-02-27 18:18:23 · answer #5 · answered by Blanchard M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is fine to go back to them, if they seem worth it overall. Just count on further pain, once they do it again...before & after marriage, if it ever gets that far.
By taking them back, you are essentually saying it is OK for them to cheat, but they WILL probably try harder not to get caught next time, so as not to have to deal with your negative reaction.
If they truely loved you, they would never stray--whether you would find out or not. So, since he did, he is sure to continue to.
So, learn to deal with it, or leave him.
2007-02-27 18:21:41 · answer #6 · answered by Howie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they might do it again. my sister's ex boyfriend cheated on her and she went back and they broke up now she's with this lazy guy who doesn't go to work or school and is intimidated by my sisters and is a total a**!
2007-02-27 18:23:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
weell this actually happened to a friend of mine
usually when you go out with someone and they cheat on you and you go out with you again it usually wont work because you have no idea if it will happen again
2007-02-27 18:19:53 · answer #8 · answered by Patrick Teh III 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends. do you still feel like you can love him?
personally I think I would go back to my gf if she cheated on me, as long as she didn't do it again or lie about it.
2007-02-27 18:18:40 · answer #9 · answered by Monkey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're going to go back (and I don't know why you would!) you have to forgive and forget. You can't keep thinking it will happen again and you can't throw it in their face every time you have doubts.
If you are able to do that, then you shouldn't have any problems.
2007-02-27 18:19:22 · answer #10 · answered by J.R. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋