I decided to go to college while my boyfriend of 2 years decided to start a career right off the bat. He is a firefighter, and he is working his way up. Sometimes he talks about how he wished he had gone to college, but it hasn't become a problem yet. Do you think this will one day be an issue in our relationship if we decide to get married? Will he envy me for going to college?
2007-02-27 10:01:47 · 12 answers · asked by Whitney 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think it would depend on how he sees the males role in a marriage. If he think his main responsibility is to be the breadwinner then it may cause a problem if you are making more money than him. Money must not be too important to him because he chose to be a firefighter. Usually people choose to be firefighters because they like to help people and not because of the money. If he is happy in his current position it will probably not be a problem. And if he continues to talk about it suggest finishing your degree while he continues to be a firefighter and if he wants he can work on a degree you will offer your support.
2007-02-27 10:12:12 · answer #1 · answered by ann 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It shouldn't be a problem at all.... just because someone went to college doesn't mean they are any better a person and just because someone else chose not to go doesn't mean they are any worse a person. Honestly, if he is going to be a firefighter his whole career than I don't see how spending money on college would have helped him in his career choice. You two will be fine as long as you don't have this "I am better than you because I went to college" attitude.
2007-02-27 18:06:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That all depends on if you fight dirty and at some point and throw it in his face. If he likes his job then there shouldn't be any problems. If someday he decides he would like to go to college, support him. It's never too late. I just suggest that you both do what makes you happy as a career and this will help your relationship and eventually your marriage.
Good luck!!
2007-02-27 18:18:34 · answer #3 · answered by jennisthedude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say no my boyfriend has a PhD and I only went for my certificate and had a great job in my field. I would love to go back and finish when I have more time but it isn't an issue with us. I do envy him that he went so far and I did not, but it just motivates me and it doesn't affect our relationship because I truly care for him.
2007-02-27 18:08:24 · answer #4 · answered by mudd_grip 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It matters less when you get older, because life experience brings you closer. Find some other common intellectual interest (current news, join a group together, pick up a new hobby together).
2007-02-27 18:06:14 · answer #5 · answered by Lisa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he wishes he had gone to college......encourage him to do so.
Its never too late.
Also, I dont see any reason that your going to college should cause issues with you two in the future.
2007-02-27 18:05:35 · answer #6 · answered by Trish 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i think that going to collage is very smart of you. you'll be thankfull that you did. the question i have is do you think that he already envies that your going? if not then i see no problem. but make sure- if you guys do end up getting married that he will be able to support you fiancaily
2007-02-27 18:07:15 · answer #7 · answered by a-hepburn 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No,if he truly loves you and respects you then he will be happy for you,he can still always go to college anyway.
2007-02-27 18:24:12 · answer #8 · answered by TH 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he may not be jealous. but he'll just wish all the more that he had gone. try to convince him to go now. he can go part time or take online courses.
2007-02-27 18:09:39 · answer #9 · answered by snd28 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, I don't. I know many people in this situation. It won't matter. As long as you love each other. It should be fine.
2007-02-27 18:04:58 · answer #10 · answered by The Random Blonde 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋