How do i get over him?

Question

i talk to him every night before we go to bed and we talk about everything.
well now i like him and he doesnt feel the same way, so he says.
i promised him things wouldnt be different now, but its too hard to get over him when he still does the things that made me think he liked me back..so now i dont know how to get over him without him thinking im mad at him or somethin is wrong..HELP?

i also see him at school every day and sometimes i try to avoid him, but its like i dont WANT to get over him but i NEED to. so what do i do when i have classes with him and see him at lunch and between periods every day?

Answer 1

Well it seems you have been honest with him so far. Tell him you were wrong (because you were) and that having time to sort this out would be good. You still want to be his friend but you need a break to get your head together. Talking every day is not going to help. Good Luck... you will get to the other side.

Answer 2

I don't know I ask myself the same thing every single day I guess what you have to do is just be brave and let him go and know that god has something else for you. I know I know I have to believe my own words but if you knew my situation you would know where I am coming from. The reason why I answered your question is because I am hurting too and I am really scared,but I wish you the best and just look up. Always look pretty and always dress nice. Good luck and Good Vibes!

Answer 3

You're not going to like this answer but I think you already know what you have to do: You are going to have to go "cold turkey" and stop seeing him and/or engaging in those activities that cause you to take your feelings to another level. Stop the conversations that occur before you go to bed! You are the only person who is getting hurt. And since you asked, who cares if he gets mad? He should care enough about you that he wouldn't want to see you get hurt -- especially by him! This is not about his feelings and how he feels; this is about your feelings and you are the ONLY one who can protect them. Let's be honest: you are hoping that by continually interacting with you, he's going to see you a different way but that's not how it works. And you make things worse by saying to yourself, "Well, if he didn't like me, why doesn't he just not talk to me?" How are you making this worse by doing this you ask? Because you are making him responsible for your feelings and that is a disservice to YOU. No one can respect you and your feelings, if YOU don't. And you can't give your heart to someone, if you're not willing to take care of it. Just think about it this way: why should he make an effort to change his behavior or see you in a new light, when he gets the same reward of your time/company just by doing the same ole, same ole? As much as you don't want to lose this connection, do you want to continue in this relationship the way it is??? You have to cut things off. Not now. Right now!

If you have the need to explain things to him, simply say: "Hey look.... I know that you don't feel the way about me that I feel about you. And that's ok. But, I lied to myself when I said that things wouldn't be different between us because they are. I like you more than you like me and I can't continue to behave like it doesn't matter. So, I have to do me. And until I'm sure that I can only be friends with you, I can't hang out with you. I hope you understand." If he doesn't, you have your answer as to the kind of person he is.

After you do that, have a good cry and get it out of your system. When you are finished, get busy: see your friends, join a club, exercise, get a hobby... anything that will keep your mind positively engaged. Make sure that you give your friends permission to give you a swift kick, if you start backsliding. Get yourself a gift: buy yourself a diary, so that you have a place to put your feelings. Even better, it will allow you to get out of the habit of talking to him before you go to sleep. Write in the diary what you would have said to him. If you can't get one right now, a notebook will do in a crunch. Most importantly, be gentle with yourself. If your best friend were going though the same thing, what would you do? Whatever it is, do it for you.

By the by, you will probably notice some changes in your male friend. If you're meant to be friends, he'll let you know. If he wants something more, he'll show you... DEFINITIVELY... NO HALF STEPPIN. YOU WON'T EVEN HAVE TO GUESS. There's a reason why it's said that "absence makes the heart grow fonder". I hope this helps.

Answer 4

Explain this to him. And what I did, was to not not talk to him and just look around and see things in a new perspective. But, first explain to him that you are doing this. Then depending on how strong of a person you are, go back. Start a great friendship. I do this, because I know it works for me anyways. Hope for you too!

Answer 5

Try to concentrate in other stuff like reading a book, watching TV, going out. You have to keep yourselves busy. Doing something unusual helps a lot: learn a new language, take salsa classes, do voluntary work...whatever pleases you. That´s how I got over someone who worked with me. It´s hard in the begging, but time will make you forget.

Answer 6

Find a new man. I suggest clubs/bars, but if you're not that intrested in those kinda stuff then try asking some friends if they have any guy friends they know who are single (make sure that your friend tells you some things about him) or just go to some parties. If he sees you with another guy, dont panic or hide. just say hi and introduce them to eachother. Try talking to him once in awhile. Not too much because he'll think you're desparate and we dont want that. Make him go to you. Eventually you'll find your soulmate.

Answer 7

You need to love yourself first.If you loved yourself that much then you wouldn't want to see yourself hurt in this way.You need to think positive and believe that life is too short and beautiful to waste in any way.I know that all these may sound weird but these beliefs made me get over a boyfriend I was with for 6 years.I did things for myself to feel better,went to the gym,went out with friends and appreciated life in general.The problem is that people do not appreciate life and themselves and that's when all problems begin.Good luck and smile!!!!Life is wonderful.

Answer 8

Aww I feel you.

Well darling, try not talking to him every day :P

Like i mean, talk to him, but once in a while. Occasionaly. Make him chase you. Want you. He will realize what an idiot he was, and he will come crawling back.

Start talking with other guys. Flirt. Have fun. Jelousy will work its magic!

Answer 9

Well u need to take some time away 4rm him(not alot but just enough) and spend more time on yourself. And talk to somebody new but dont get too serious w/ him too soon! N hopefully u will get over him, slowly but surely u will get over him!!!

Answer 10

Move on with your life doing other things than talking to him and constantly thinking of HIM....Concentrated on YOU... Go out and do things for yourself that you like to do. Pamper yourself. Trust me, when you're not around, he will be. Let him come after you. If the two of you are to be, it will just happen.

GL