2007-02-27 09:55:43 · 34 answers · asked by Alex C 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
she got in a fight and she broke the other girls arm and nose.
2007-02-28 09:12:24 · update #1
First it would be a spanking, then I'd have the cleanest house, car, lawn in the neighborhood. After that, she'd be grounded for quite some time.
2007-02-27 19:17:03 · answer #1 · answered by olschoolmom 7 · 3⤊ 5⤋
Expelled forever? Sit her down and have a short talk. This works better. Get all the facts. This will help because the children are often not objective. This must include her side as well as any sides you can get to.
Do not stop at the point where social violation or legal violation occurs. Get the facts all the way down to the mundane "She stepped on my toe," or what ever started it. Don't minimize anything, you don't know what it is like to be a 12 year girl.
After you collect all the facts then lean the landscape. Why this comes about in context, what forces are at work on your daughter socially.
Then you will be prepared and this exercise may be enough of a lesson.
2007-02-27 10:07:23 · answer #2 · answered by Ron H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a teacher... I would say that you should support the school in their choice... and ground her during the time. Make sure you contact the school to get her work to do.. they must supply work. Or, until they get something together, go online and get some math and language work from her grade.
Also, I would say that you should set some limits... if she does "whatever she did" again at school, there will be bigger consequences at home... like loss of computer, phone privilege, etc. Then, you can always try to enroll her in another board, depending on what is available where you live.
I have taught 12 year olds for 15 years and now have a 2 year old. I am not looking forward to that stage... they can be tough. Good luck!
2007-02-27 10:00:09 · answer #3 · answered by Cathy K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, when I was 12 years old, I had a 3-day external suspension for physical violence. I believed I had a good enough reason - they said very vulgar things about my family life which are actually true. My parents were VERY upset with me for the first two days, even going as far as ignoring me. That made me feel worthless - because what I did was in the spur of the moment. I believe that you should be sure to talk to your daughter, and if it is something serious, let her know that equal consequences will follow. Enroll her in a new school - I'd recommend all-girls school. Make sure to give her a fair punishment, but nothing to degrade her.
2007-02-27 10:32:14 · answer #4 · answered by Lacey Crescent 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 13 and female so I hope I can help you out with this. There is no excuse for getting expelled but more often than not she got expelled for acting out or being violent. You must see where that anger is coming from. Remember angry is a secondary emotion that comes from sadness, fustration or passion. See what is bothering her but it she is obvilously very upset then don't discuss it then. Try again later. Try to stay calm when your asking her. Don't force her to become defensive. If that wasn't the cause of her expulsion then still try to get the root of the problem and make her understand why she shouldn't do this and why she is being punished.
Good Luck
-*cuddles* <3
2007-02-27 10:04:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on why she got expelled. When I was in highschool a big group of us (who were all straight A, perfect students) got expelled. But for a good reason. We held a peaceful protest over the firing of a good teacher and the cancelling of very much needed programs. Its been nearly 20 yrs and I am still proud of that, and if my child stood up for something I would tell her "way to go".
However, if she was expelled for fighting, etc..I would look into the "scared straight" program, In your community.
2007-02-27 11:04:55 · answer #6 · answered by Chrissy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure she understands why she was expelled. Was it because she got into a fight? Did she start it? Enroll her in an alternative school or do home schooling so she doesn't fall behind.
2007-02-27 10:04:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on what she got expelled for. Talk to her... try to understand her... dont be hot headed about it. Talking to her and letting her know that you are there for her and that you are willing to help her through any tough times she may be in will hopefully keep bad things from happening in the future. You cant change what happened... but you can prevent something from happening in the future... understand why this happened and try to help your daughter steer away from doing such things. Set rules though... you have to let her know that you are still the boss and that she cannot continue to behave however she is behaving. ok well i hope i helped... and i hope everything works out :D
2007-02-27 10:02:02 · answer #8 · answered by fidowido99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on what happened. a little more info please...a 12 year old cannot be perminantly expelled from a school without some sort of criminal reason. if it was criminal the issue is submitted to the state. was it a suspension?
2007-02-27 10:11:03 · answer #9 · answered by m37734 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sue. Whatever it was, it can't be as bad as that. She was probably expelled for excercising her civil rights, or because the Principal has it out for people of your race, religion, socio-economic background, heritage, or something!
Quick, contact a lawyer - with a big fat settlement from the school district, she'll never have to suffer the consequences of her actions again!
2007-02-27 09:59:00 · answer #10 · answered by jbtascam 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Listen to your daughters side of the story and discuss it with her. Discuss why she was suspended and if a punishment of any kind is warranted. Don't jump to any conclusion before talking with her thoroughly. If you feel she was right to do what she did, take it before the school board and fight to get her back into school.
2007-02-27 10:06:07 · answer #11 · answered by Darlin1_66 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋