i know it's silly, but i feel guilty for things a lot, and i never did and never will do any crime. But i often feel like things are my fault or if i dont do something about it then i should be blamed, even though i never do anything or someone else has responsibility for things, not me. What should I do to get over this stupid feeling? and is this lack of self-confidence?
2007-02-27 09:45:01 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Nothing.
We all at one time or another in our lives feel guilty for things we have no control over. This is part of being human.
Many times we may see something that we think we can change or things that we feel are not right but do nothing. Again, this is not our fault.
As I have always said in life "I am not my brothers' keeper". I mean this in a sense that I am not responsible for my neighbor's actions.
We may think this if we are Christian or such but I do not think that even this was not the intent of many things passed down in the holy books of the world.
To get over this feeling, we must understand that we are in charge of our own destiny, bar none. I feel that if you are feeling guilty, maybe you are thinking that you could have changed something that happened in another persons life.
Wrong again. Is this a lack of self confidence? No, just a case of caring too much in a non-caring world. Do not let this get you down but arise from this. If you are asking these questions of yourself, you are not such a bad person after all, are you?
2007-02-27 10:05:48 · answer #1 · answered by Randy P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there, i know exactly how you feel..altho I kinda do have things to feel guilty about (not crimes or acts on other ppl) but I know where your coming from...it is low self esteem and self victimisation ..unless other people are making you feel this way. Maybe you need to talk to a counsellor about these self deating thoughts and why you have them? is it all the time or a recent thing? you could also try taking up a new activity or do things that make you feel good about yourself, think of your achievements and try to build up ur self confidence and esteem! Good luck!x
2007-02-27 09:51:12 · answer #2 · answered by SH2007 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same issue, to an extent... i think in my case it's more problem with being very empathic and not being able to stand sensing someone's disappointment, frustation, anger, any negative emotion really - regardless if it's directed at me or not. I *feel* them and it makes me so damn uncomfortable I end up apologising for whatever it is that is bothering them just to make them feel a little better so it'll stop bugging me so damn much.
I also can't stand to watch shows like "curb your enthusiasm" because even watching shows of such uncomfortable social tension like that just gets me all wound up.
2007-02-27 09:56:25 · answer #3 · answered by arjo_reich 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want people to like you so you think if you take the blame for everything that everyone else does, that makes you a good person. Stop being so people-pleasing.
Yes, you have NO self-esteem.
2007-02-27 09:50:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i use to do the same thing,accepting the consequences regardless of whose actions,it is a horrible feeling even knowing you havent harmed or killed no one you still feel like a murderer,God forgives us of anything if we ask,i have found that though i wasnt guilty of most things i accepted the blame anyway and found that God is the answer when you realise that Jesus died for us and the things He went through for us and when God forgives us He never remembers it again(it didnt happen)what right do we have to keep holding on to the blame if God can forgive us we must forgive ourselves,that is the problem we dont forgive ourselves...........good luck and God Bless
2007-02-27 10:14:12 · answer #5 · answered by loveChrist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It happens, and it usually goes away. How about occupying some of your free time with a boyfriend? That should keep your mind off this guilt thing, as long as you keep it honest.
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2016-10-02 02:15:13 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't get over that. Its better than you think. Its a part of your personality. Never lose it. forgive, love and be you. Don't blame yourself everytime but be youself.
2007-02-27 09:48:22 · answer #8 · answered by heather n 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keeping yourself busy will take some of it away. The other part will not go away as you are a sensitive person.
2007-02-27 09:54:05 · answer #9 · answered by Alletery 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋