Dating 3 years older too much?

Question

Okay, here's the story:

I met a guy about three years ago, and about that time I developed feelings for him. He is a few months over three years older than me. We do, in fact, have quite a few things in common, and I have always considered myself mature for my age (I'm turning sixteen in about two months), and I get along with him great.

Whether this is insecurity, or just plain fact, I'm quite sure I have no chance with him. This doesn't stop me from being his friend or trying to get him to like me by flirting and hanging around with him. He's a great guy, and I feel I'm lucky even having him as a friend at this point.

However, I'm curious if whether or not the age difference is too much, or just fine. My parents trust me, as I have always made pretty good decisions, and when I haven't, my parents know I've learned from them. They trust me, and they love me. They know I wouldn't make stupid decisions.

So is this 3 year age difference too much? Could a relationship work?

Answer 1

As long as you know that you can make the right desicions there is nothing wrong with the agee gap! al my boyfriends have ben at least 3 years older than me, most have been great relationships nad i have fond memories of them all.
You only live once, and should take all the chances you can, i advise you to go for it and wish you the best of luck!

Answer 2

Well now this is an unusual question.

Dating someone who is three years old raises several points:

- Is this person living with their parents still? If so, then you have to question whether or not he is ready for the responsibilities of a relationship.

- The size difference between you and he may be a factor. If you were to go to a carnival with rides, most likely, he wouldn't be able to reach the height standards.

- 3 year olds aren't very strong at all. You would, of course, have to give up piggy back rides and the hopes of your man ever cutting wood for at least the next five years or so.

- upsides are that he probably would not slap you around much. He probably doesn't eat much and I hear that people (especially men) are very impressionable at this age so your chances of molding yourself the perfect man are real good.

Personally, I don't see any problem with it. These, as they say, are the nineties, and there are apparently no limits!

Answer 3

3 years is fine girl! seriously there is much worse. and ur nearly 16 meaning hes either 18 or 19 (still a teenager) i dotn know why but society find it alot mroe offensive for someoen in their twenties to be dating a teenager. just make sure that he doesnt pressure you into sex as he is older and probably thinks he knows best, hes probably been sexualy active for a while and by law youre not supposed to have sex with a minor (ie, if he was 19 now and youre still 15). dont let him take advantage of you and that you are sure his feelinsg are true, alot of guys get off on being teh first one to 'pop' a chicks 'cherry'. just dont rush into something if you are unsure at all. 3 years different isnt a big deal, your parents might be a bit wary but that is natural as they are parents, tehy will probably give you the same advice as me. the relationship could work, it would probably jsut take a bit of getting used to on both parties, ie. Him nearly turning 20 (guessing), working full time (guessing) or going to uni (guessing), can drive, might already be living on his own, can go to clubs (strip clubs), pubs, get grog, smoke etc goign out with a chick whos still in highschool, still has homework and possibly works part time. its a bit different nbut ive still seen alot of couples do it and make it work. its up to you really darl but good luck fo ryou anyway, sounds like a neat guy =)

Answer 4

Not exactly. In some cases yes, but personally i would say too old is 4 or 5 years older than you. Its not too much of a difference. If you asked him out and started dating him the relationship is more likely to work properly.

Answer 5

Age is only a number! put it this way..its a freshmen dating a senior kind of. Its not an unheard of thing, I have alot of friends who did that last year when we were freshmen. But you're both at very different points in your life, make sure you can handle sex and that cause of school you wont always be with him, he'll be out with older people and sometimes trusting him gets really hard. Many of my friends got really hurt because of it. But trust youre own instinct, you can never go wrong with what makes you happy.

Answer 6

I don't see why it couldn't work.

If you were saying is 30 years age difference too much I think you would have to question that.

there is 3 years between me and my boyfriend and we've been together for nearly 12 years now. And there was a 5 year gap between my parents and they were together in their teens.

so I don't think that sort of age gap is really frowned upon.

Answer 7

3 years??? thats nothing! unless of course youre like 15 n hes 18... thats kinda not good..

Answer 8

dump him he might try to do the wrong thing to you one day if you know what i mean starts with the letter after R ends with an X

Answer 9

i can't see the problem, but dont try and force him to like you - "trying to get him to like me".
aslong as he feels thats he's lucky to be your friend then its all good

Answer 10

Sweetheart
3 years is nothing at all....go for it