My mother passed away 5 weeks ago, still feel like I'm dreaming?

Question

She went into the hospital for a simple thing and ended up passing away from an infection she got in the hospital. I wake up every morning thinking it is just a bad dream right? It is like I still feel I will see her again. Any help for getting over this?

Answer 1

you sound so sweet, it melts my heart.. I cannot relate with you though i could imagine ... I have just read a book called 90 minutes in heaven and it sound so very glorious ...shes most definately in a very cozy place with so many loved ones and rejoicing together and watching over you and awaiting for you ,,, just know that our lives are important to have here but then when you reunite in Heaven it will be forever so hang in there down here on earth and enjoy every minute you Will see her again !! if you can read even just the first part of that book where it describes meeting family in Heaven and all of its beutiful Glory.... I am sure it feels empty here but value each day also,, you are too,,, an angel that has been sent from heaven to be born and live on this dry dusty earthand then in your end you too will go back home to heaven ((( i like to think that it makes me feel like I am on a journey sort of I Love God ,,,, do something special for her ,and dedicate it for her, and be happy in your heart ,, make a difference in other peoples lives ,, that is wonderful to GOD and your mom Be STrong and ask the Lord to Guide you every second of every minute of every day anso forth forever and thereafter so you can see her and be with her again but its be thankful and it is life enjoy,,,,,,,,,

another thing that book talks about is like.... her appearence will be amazing like beutiful and better then you ever even remembered her and time there in heaven is so different then yes even after all of the years you spend here on earth she will be there and you yourself will be young and radient too ,,, if you understand what I am saying i hope so ,,,,so stay young at heart forever ,, just as if you are only seperated for a while ((( just a while))) she will wait for you so don't rush to get there by any means!!!!!!! you might have GODS work to do here!!!!

Answer 2

First I am very sorry for your loss. I am not sure that you ever get "over" the passing of a loved one especially your mom. It just gets easier as time goes on. My best advise would be to seek out someone to talk to and share your feelings with. If you are a member of a church speak with your pastor or priest. There are also a number of good grief counselors out there that provide a good service. Talk to other family members and remember all the wonderful things about your mom!

Answer 3

Can't really help you, other than commiserate. With time the feelings will change to become something that you are more comfortable with. Thats all you 'look forward' to.

My mother caught an infection is hospital in Nov 06 when she was in for chemo and it nearly wiped her out in the space of 24 hours, so I totally know where you are coming from. Luckily she recovered, but the speed of the decline and the total seriousness of it just totally took me by surprise.. totally out of left-field.

Stay cool my friend.

Answer 4

I just lost my father 3 months ago, and my mother 3.5 years ago, and I'm only 26.

The pain doesn't go away, you just learn to live life without that person. You do things for awhile that won't remind you of them, and then slowly you start to incorporate things back into your life. We each learn to cope in a different way, and at times in your life you will wish she was there with you. That won't go away, like for me when I did a big presentation I need her, and then when my dad died, I really needed her for support. You won't get over it, but like I feel, each day will bring you another way that you will thank them for raising you and being your mother.

Hugs honey! I know what you are going through. I started a blog about my experiences of taking care of my father while he had cancer and what has gone on afterwards. This may help you in getting out some of your feelings.

So, yes this is confusing, but we never trully "get over" it. Anyone who tells you they have, has never gone through the experience of losing a parent or anyone close to them.

One day you will look back and smile, knowing that you were lucky enough to have your mother and that you were her most precious contribution to society.

Answer 5

I'm sorry for your loss.

My dad and my husband developed complications while in the hospital--and each died younger than they should have.

You are still in shock/denial. There are several stages in the grieving process--you should get some books out of the library about this. There are a lot--usually in the self-help section.

Answer 6

Well no one can really help you get over a loss. you just got to stay strong. I am so sorry about your mom. Oh and sorry that this is the on'y advice i can give you. I wish i could sprinkle fairy dust and make your mom come back but i can't. I can't sprinkle fairy dust to make you feel better either, thats somehting that we all have to go thru and nobody can do anything about that. Again sorry, but this is the only thing i can do.

Answer 7

If you go to a public school or university, contact their counselor services. They understand more than us what is happening. When my dad passed away, I received counseling and it was very good for me.

Answer 8

I'm really sorry to hear this. You should talk to a professional about it.

I honestly wish you the best of luck. I'm so sorry for your loss

Answer 9

Don't get over it. You will see her again some day and until then know she is watching over you and you shouldn't have to get over losing your mom so keep her with you where ever you go.

Answer 10

I'm sorry you lost your mother. when mine died the best thing i did was keep myself busy. you will always think of her which is good. put yourself into gods hands.