My boyfriend 32 and I 29 have been together for 8 months.We are very much in love.He really shows me his love and I have no complains.He has already told me a lot of times without proposing that we will get married and made me believe that he meant soon e.g (a year).But a week ago he told me that he has set a time limit to himself not to do anything(get married,live together e.t.c)for the next 1.5 year(which means that we may get married in 2.5 years) because he wants to pay off his loan car.Should I trust that he will keep his word?He has promised other not really important things to me(like bying something or going to a nice restaurant) and sometimes didn't keep his promises or postponed things.That's what worries me.How can I tell if he means what he says?Thank you in advance for your replies.
2007-02-27 09:29:39 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you believe that this is real then just enjoy your time with him and what you have now and don't worry about what is going to happen then. Just cherish what is now. If it is meant to be then yes, you can believe him. Doubt and worry can kill the relationship faster than anything else that is out there. It sounds like you may be in a hurry and he is not, so just hang in there, keep building those good memories and planning new ones. Also sounds like you have been hurt a time or two before. If you love him and trust him then just believe in him and always let him know how much you do.
2007-02-27 09:41:35 · answer #1 · answered by altariela 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, this sounds shady and like an excuse...what the hell does paying off a car loan have to do with anything? If they are in love with you and want to get married, wild horses couldn't drag them away. When they are hesitant and easy to grab ahold of lame things to use as an excuse to put it off, I would think carefully. Granted , you have only been together for 8 months so I am not saying break up or anything, just be aware. You don't want to jump in but you don't want to waste time with a commitment-phobe either.
2007-02-27 17:36:07 · answer #2 · answered by Clarissa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what does a car loan have to do with nuptials...it is cool to be debt free at the start of a marriage but how bad could those payments be...he may have other debts...check his credit gurl!!....if he already shows u that he cant keep his word with other smaller things then i would be a lil suspicious too. You should use the 2 yrs too really get to know him..maybe he is saying what he thinks YOU wanna hear. good luck and take care
2007-02-27 17:37:50 · answer #3 · answered by nicky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A wedding proposal is a totally different promise compared to buying you something or going to a nice restauraunt. Men put things into different perspectives the us women. Paying off his loan car is a big thing for him (probably) and once he finishes that, he'll probably feel ready for anything.
Talk to him about it, and good luck.
2007-02-27 17:36:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should focus too much on it. I fyou love him...and want to marry him, then there's no need to rush. That type of commitment is meant to last a life time, so does it really matter if it happens later rather than sooner?
2007-02-27 17:33:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest with you! It sounds like he's stringing you a along! I don't think he's planning to marry you now or in the future!But you're the one that knows him. Maybe he's telling the truth but it doesn't sound that way!
2007-02-27 17:37:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's stalling. I don't know this guy so I can't honestly say what his intentions are but I think you need to make your feelings known to him. Tell him that you're worried he won't come around. Girl, afterall, HE'S not the one with the biological clock!!
2007-02-27 17:34:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
things change girlfriend....he may or may not keep his promise..just dont put 100%hope and trust..coz if u do..and if it fails its gona hurt u more...just stay in love wid him...as sayin promises maybe broken....and as u said he did it b4 so he might gona do it again and again...just take it easy and slowly...god wil always be wid both of u..
2007-02-27 17:37:01 · answer #8 · answered by suarez_stacey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a really weak excuse... he's a lying pile of dog turd, is what he is
2007-02-27 17:32:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant i guess you'll just have to wait and see good luck
2007-02-27 17:33:06 · answer #10 · answered by gigi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋