i caught my 9 yo daughter with another boy today, and they were doing things she should not no about 4 along time
2007-02-27 09:09:35 · 10 answers · asked by sckenpo 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
It's too late for you to go back in time and keep your daughter from knowing about these things. But you do need to keep her from being in this situation again.
At nine, she is still only a child, too young to be thinking sexually and MUCH too young to consent to anything. There is absolutely no point in being angry with her. Instead, you need to protect her. She should not be unsupervised with other children, or with adults you do not trust.
You also need to talk to her about sex. Ask her -- kindly and reassuringly -- what she knows, what happened, and why. TELL her that she should not be having sexual or private contact with anybody for any reason, and that if anybody asks her, she should say NO and talk to you about it.
Watch her closely for the next little while. If she seems sad, angry, or scared, or if she continues to talk about sex, it is possible that she has been exposed to something she shouldn't have been exposed to, and that she would benefit from counseling.
2007-02-27 09:20:15 · answer #1 · answered by llemma 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Children are curious. It may have just been innocent curiosity. Talk to your daughter about what you saw. Is the boy younger,same age or older? Explain that what they were doing is inapropriate and explain why. If she is curious about hte human body then you need to educate her, that way she will not need to go and do things like play doctors and nurses. I would also speak with the parents of the boy and make some rules for at home, like bedroom door must be open when friends are in her room and make sure you keep close supervision without making her feel like you are in her face or do not trust her. I have a 7 yearr old daughter and because she has a 4yr old brother she really is not all that interested in seeing boys body parts but she has a friend the same age who is an only child and gets all giggly and stupid and thinks it is grosse if my little boy gets changed infront of her. (i try to avoid letting this happen as it is not my place to allow her to see these things, it is up to her parents). Also try to moniter what she is seeing on TV. If she is watching tv shows or movies that have scenes of sex or making out she may have gotten the idea from telly.
2007-02-27 09:26:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Curiosity. (and TV) That's all it could be. Just talk to her (Calmly, cooly and colectively). Explain that those are grown-up things and only grown-ups (who are in love) are allowed to and one day when she is (much) older she will find some one (else) who is worth it.
Perhaps not in those words, but you get the idea.
I agree that you need to talk to her and find out where she learned this. Don't have anger in your tone or she'll clam up! Ask the other little boys parents wether or not he has ever done that before.
2007-02-27 09:21:38 · answer #3 · answered by sk8erchica15 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with her, tell her why you don't want her doing said things and the repercussions of what could happen if she continued doing them (ie: pregnancy, STDs, etc).
Whatever you do, don't yell and scream and make a big deal out of it, that is the absolute worst thing you could do next to doing nothing.
2007-02-27 09:15:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit her down and have a talk with her, find out why, what she does or does not understand, Also would not allow her to be alone with boys again.
2007-02-27 09:14:10 · answer #5 · answered by peanutbulls 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and talk with her. Ask her if she knows what she was doing or if she was just doing what HE wanted, and ask her WHY she did it. Tell her about STDs, pregnancy, all of that stuff. Pretty much just give her a sex talk.
2007-02-27 09:22:25 · answer #6 · answered by TooYoung4This 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should talk to her, tell her why those things are bad you know? Tell her what the consequenses are. Don't give her a punishment unless you feel that she was doing those things on purpose.
2007-02-27 09:13:58 · answer #7 · answered by &thalia.belle; 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get the conversation going about sex asap! The sooner she start to learn about the consequences of sex, the better!
2007-02-27 09:19:05 · answer #8 · answered by *Logan's Mommy* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids are growing up a lot faster nowadays. I'd try to scare the heck out of her. Pregnancy, sexually transmitted diseases, you name it.
2007-02-27 09:12:20 · answer #9 · answered by chelebeee 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont let her see him anymore
2007-02-27 09:12:37 · answer #10 · answered by Arielle D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋