I am 15, and have a 37 year olf half brother. My dad won't speak of him after what he did, but I have wanted to get in contact for some time now. There is a little thing in the local paper, as his mum has just died. I could contact the funeral service and get his details, and get in contact, do you think I should or just forget about him. I don't think he knows I exist, and it would open the wounds between him and my dad, and if my dad ever found he would never speak to me again, but i really want to contact him. Should I?
i have already posted this question, but it ended up in mobile phones!
2007-02-27 09:07:57 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
apart from the half broter i am considering contacting, no, I am am only child. I have always been brought up as an only child, and when asked about brothers and sisters, its always been no, only child.
2007-02-27 09:16:05 · update #1
my father has told me sbout him, and i do want to meet him partly because of what Ihe has done, but I would like to know about him, and know what it's like to have a brother, even if he is more than twice my age! thanks for the answers so far!
2007-02-27 09:27:07 · update #2
I would wait a few years if I were you. By persisting in your quest, you run a grave risk of deeply offending your father, who must have his own reasons for not telling you about your step-brother.
2007-02-27 09:21:28 · answer #1 · answered by breedgemh_101 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hope you contact him, You could always try and send a letter first to break the shock, if he doesn't know you exsist, Please do it soon as the furneral services are very reluctant to assist with names and addresses, Remember that this could go one of two ways, he may welcome you with open arms, he might reject you also, I am sure that your dad must understand that you want to do this, or perhaps you dad is only trying to protect you, I would speak with your father and ask him why he is so against you making contact, and what did your half brother do? perhaps he has tried before when you were younger and got rejected. Which ever way it goes I wish you all the best, but remember rejection hurts, from either side.
2007-02-28 00:39:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because your dad has fell out with him doesn't mean u shouldn't try and find him. And u would probably find that he Will b glad that you got in contact. a few years ago i meet my dad for the first time and found that i had 2 half sisters. we get on really well and are always doing stuff together and i love them like Ive known them all my life. good luck x
2007-02-28 04:15:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, I think that it's cool that you know where your half brother is and you want meet him. What's really cool is he must have done something pretty bad but he's your brother and that's what matters to you and I really respect you for that. RIGHT ON!!!
I have a half brother named Jerry and a half sister named Rachael they are both younger than me but I wish I knew who they were and if I find out I will be knocking on their doors in a heartbeat.
So you go on and meet your brother, I wish you all the luck and if your dad gets upset about it well tuff turkey for him that's your brother and that's all there is to it.
Good luck.
2007-02-28 10:08:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your dad's relationship with your half-brother should have nothing to do with yours, if you want to have one with him. In this day and time, we all need the support of all of those we can get. You should get in touch with him and if you do get to meet, don't allow the conversations to turn toward your dad. Just let your half-brother know that you want to have a relationship with him, but you love your dad and don't want anything to interfere with that relationship. And your old enough to stand up for what you believe, even with your dad, so I would say to be up front with him about your feelings. Good luck and stay strong!!!
2007-02-27 17:30:16 · answer #5 · answered by Shirley T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you a have a right to want to contact him. Especially after his mom just died. Just be sure you are ready to handle any consequences, in case any drama becomes of it. What does your mom think? Do you have any older brothers or sisters that want to get in contact with him...maybe you can do it together. But he is your brother, if you really feel like you want to know him, go for it!!
2007-02-27 17:13:45 · answer #6 · answered by lovin' life... 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the first question is why you really want to contact him? if its because of hurting your father so please don't but if you really want to have a brother for the rest of your life its another thing.
If I were you I would send him my condolences through post then I would to funeral and speak to him its more thoughtful than going to funeral and saying hi I am your half brother.
good luck!!!!!!!!!
2007-02-27 17:19:41 · answer #7 · answered by bahareh n 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think you can contact him (though you are still young) but its also good that you discuss with your dad, it is his (your father) duty to contact his son and inform him of his mothers death (a 37years old person is not a small person) he has to present in his mothers funeral service.
2007-02-28 04:50:14 · answer #8 · answered by babygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would contact him but if i were you i would have a chat with your dad first and tell him it is your intention to contact him and that it isnt your intention to hurt your dad! this way you are not in any way deceiving your dad and going behind his back he has gotta respect you for that good luck chuck!
2007-02-27 20:18:09 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Honesty ♥.•´ `*.¸ ♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let it all stop as it is John you've nothing to gain and everything to lose apparently
2007-03-03 16:21:34 · answer #10 · answered by srracvuee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋