how can you tell the man you love that u cheat it on him before marriage and you regret it a whole lot?

Answer 1

It sounds that you want to tell him for a very selfish reason. You feel so bad that you have to share it. When you do share it you'll feelmuch better but your husband will never trust you the same way again. Just learn from your mistake and never do it again.

Answer 2

All these people telling you not to tell him, I can't believe this. Marriages that work are based on honesty and faith. Yeah it could mess up you marriage to tell him, but it's much better to tell him before you've spent $$$$$ on a wedding, and before you have kids and all, you know sooner or later he could find out, and then where would you be? Much better to tell him and take your chances. if he truely loves you, you'll be able to work through it.

So I'd say sit him down, and tell him you love him more than anything, but that a long time back that you'd been with someone else before you knew where this was going... try to break it to him easy, and tell him you're very very sorry and that you would never do anything like that now, especially since you know he's the one for you...

I dunno, Good luck, it's not an easy place to be in, but be honest, but streetsmart at the same time...

Answer 3

If you confess now, that you cheated, you will destroy your marriage & your husband's love for you. This is something you have to live with, try to forgive yourself in time, & make it up to your husband, (in your own mind) by being the best & most faithful wife that you can be. We all make bad choices & you regret yours, so move forward & have a great marriage, & happy one as well.

Answer 4

I do realize that there are quite a few people that think that there isn't any reason for saying anything...if it were me? Yes I would say something, Three months before my husband and I got married he told me that he had been trying to sleep with another woman (granted there are other issues as well) and I knew that he was the man I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. knowing that alone I knew that it didn't matter i loved him and it didn't matter what happened or didn't happen and after alot of thought I STILL married him. We couldn't be happier and we tell eachother everything, the entire situation made us stronger and in the long run made him come to me about EVERYTHING...if they really love you it won't matter... tell them

Answer 5

You shouldn't start a marriage on a lie, so you need to tell him the truth. But, expect the worst because you really screwed up and there may not ever be forgiveness for you. But it will come out sooner or later anyway. It would be best to tell him now. Prepare yourself for the worst, sit him down and tell him you love him. Tell him you messed up and if you could take back anything in the world it would be that moment. Then, tell him what you did and ask him if he can ever forgive you because you want to spend every day for the rest of your life making it up to him.

Answer 6

Well.......If you're sure you HAVE to tell them, I'd suggest maybe going on the Maury show! It's this show where couples reveal their "secrets". It's kind of hard to explain! Watch it on weekdays at 10:00 a.m. on channel 6 I think! Otherwise if you aren't a person for that type of thing, maybe just find them at a good time and calmly explain what happened. Tell them that you made a mistake and.......In the end I would hope they'll forgive you. Hope this helps! Good Luck!

Answer 7

Not very easily. I realize how you must feel in your heart, but you weren't married when the other encounter happened, so it wasn't technically cheating. Right now, your confession isn't going to help much except make you both feel like crap. Love your man enough to let him think he has a wonderful wife and love him enough to continue being that wonderful wife.

Answer 8

if u regret it the he should understand but u doing something like that before marriage is something that is never forgettable nor forgivable. You have to earn your trust back, try hard as u can if u really love him. Make him believe you.

Answer 9

Don't. It was before marriage, it would just hurt both of you.
Try to get over the guilt. Remind yourself it's in the past, you don't cheat on him now, and try to focus on the happy future ahead!

Answer 10

DONT. You have to ask yourself something here: do you want to tell him in order to make yourself feel better or to make him feel better? What good would it do to tell him? You can't change it, telling him won't change it, he'll never trust you again, and could ruin your relationship. You just want to let go of the guilt, and that is selfish. Why hurt the guy? Just forgive yourself, learn from it and let it go.